Could be guilt over hurting you. Trying to smooth things over with you. Maybe try to remain a friend. Did you tell him that you cannot remain friends or have any contact after the ending? If not, he may have been under the assumption you can still be friends.
you say you can't imagine it was fishing? What can you imagine it was? Like Iddy said - yes it was fishing - and he got what he wanted - to know you are still open. Are you ending or waiting?
If you really meant what you said about him not coming back, you would have blocked him. You didn't, you knowingly kept the path open for a fishing expedition.
He could very well be wondering why you said, for him not to come back and then you answered his text with a text. It doesn't matter.
You are just as bad as he is.
Does it give you hope that he wants to continue things?
Now is the time to get honest with yourself, not us. We will support you if you want to truly end this affair, but you haven't done what it takes. Do you think every successful person on here that has ended their affair is wrong about blocking and walking?
This is where the rubber hits the road, and the journey begins. It's a rough road.
End it. Block him. It doesn't matter what he thinks.
OR............sit around and hope that the next message is how it was a big mistake and all that crap.
You are the one who is standing in the way of no contact.
Block and walk.
Hope you stay NC, it will stop your heart from being ripped out.
It is in your best interest not to wonder why he would do this. We never really know why anyone does something, do we? Whatever his motivation was, it was still a form of manipulation. He had to have known it would affect you, which is indeed very selfish and self serving.
Then it could have been a fishing attempt. I have heard where some men after the affair is over, miss the sex part of the A and will come back hinting at a FWB type relationship, and of course without the emotions and expectations involved that could complicate things again.
it is all true.... maybe the intent was genuine goodwishes, but BEHIND that 'innocent' haha intent was a fishing attempt and you stroked his ego by responding even if it was non commital.... now you HAVE to block and walk cos he WILL try again..be it an anniversary, or birthday or something. they are all excuses to have a fish under an innocent, thoughtful, look at me arent i kind guise.. i fell for same tricks in may last year and once things were 'back on' .. know what xAP said to me? 'I was softening you up and sounding you out' ...I WILL NEVER FORGET those words, and so began the most fateful month of my life that redefined everything and all H and i had built up.... how deluded and smug was that comment.... from soneone i idolised ... CR@P time and space really does make us see clearer stay strong and protect protect protect..... NC x
He was just trying to show you what a nice, thoughtful Xmm he is. :smileymad:
peacey...when he ended it
You are trying to over think it.
If you really meant what you said about him not coming back, you would have blocked him. You didn't, you knowingly kept the path open for a fishing expedition.
He could very well be wondering why you said, for him not to come back and then you answered his text with a text. It doesn't matter.
You are just as bad as he is.
Does it give you hope that he wants to continue things?
Now is the time to get honest with yourself, not us. We will support you if you want to truly end this affair, but you haven't done what it takes. Do you think every successful person on here that has ended their affair is wrong about blocking and walking?
This is where the rubber hits the road, and the journey begins. It's a rough road.
End it. Block him. It doesn't matter what he thinks.
OR............sit around and hope that the next message is how it was a big mistake and all that crap.
You are the one who is standing in the way of no contact.
Block and walk.
Hope you stay NC, it will stop your heart from being ripped out.
We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.
BFN,
It is in your best interest not to wonder why he would do this. We never really know why anyone does something, do we? Whatever his motivation was, it was still a form of manipulation. He had to have known it would affect you, which is indeed very selfish and self serving.
Protect yourself so he can't do this again.
((Hugs))
Then it could have been a fishing attempt. I have heard where some men after the affair is over, miss the sex part of the A and will come back hinting at a FWB type relationship, and of course without the emotions and expectations involved that could complicate things again.
'I was softening you up and sounding you out' ...I WILL NEVER FORGET those words, and so began the most fateful month of my life that redefined everything and all H and i had built up.... how deluded and smug was that comment.... from soneone i idolised ... CR@P time and space really does make us see clearer stay strong and protect protect protect.....
NC x
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