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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 1:23pm

Okay. Enuf is enuf...I CANNOT STAND THIS! So, I'm trying very hard to get myself together...I will NOT let myself fall apart.

I'm on the phone with the GPs office now...requesting a stronger a/b. I know once I feel better physically, I will feel better overall.

I am forcing myself to WORK. I have so much to do and all I can do is just do it.

I talked to dh...big misunderstanding...he wasn't mad at me. I always take his moods personally and allow them to mess ME up. Can't do that. He is still at my house, but will go home tomorrow.

Another biggie is my ds. He wants a rott puppy for Christmas. I have allowed him to think he is going to get it. I did some research and found some females that are decently priced, but he ONLY wants a male.

We also would have to move again after the holidays...this is fine with me, actually, cuz I don't like where I'm at now...waaaay too close to the school, and the utility bill is like $400 or more every month. Its killing me.

I get paid tomorrow...I can catch my rent back up, pay my bills, but not have a whole lot left. Enuf to get food. Gas. I know Eric will help, but he's still trying to get his car on the road, and can't cuz he is giving us money. I can't help him cuz I messed up and let my rent get behind and have to catch it up. Manic stuff. I realize it, and know there isn't anything I can do about it NOW. Just have to get it all taken care of.

So, I'm trying. Its still tough. But, I'm trying so hard to be hopeful and proactive and nip this NOW before I lose control totally. Its really easy to let that happen.

I really wish I could get a part time job. That would help. But, I dunno.

Oh well, rambled enuf.

Love you all.

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Registered: 04-06-2005
In reply to: keli003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 1:54pm

how about telling Mike that after you looked into it, the only way to get this pup he HAS to have right now, is for him to get a part time job and pay for the dog and the food and the care for him.....


I know you want to give him the world and you feel bad, but at some point you need to stop.

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Registered: 08-11-2006
In reply to: keli003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 2:54pm

Did the spoil 'em rotten with ds also until I realized he didn't appreciate ANYTHING he had and if it broke, OH WELL, mom and dad will replace it....and the CLUTTER. Finally hit the wall, told him if it was not cleaned up by the weekend it would ALL be mine. On D-day, he had a small pile by the door and said "That's what I want to keep." KAHBLUWEE!!!! I told him what part of ALL did you not understand. DW and I spent all day cleaning out his room....for about 2 mo. he had zip, zilch, nada. Gave him his legoes back for Christmas that year and told the grandparents NO MORE TOYS. Didn't help, but I felt better. DS room is STILL a disaster area if DW and myself don't hound him into cleaning it up. GRRRRRRR!!!!!

As for the rott....I would recommend STRONGLY against getting one for a kid (I don't know how old your DS is), they are a VERY dominant breed and it takes a STRONG personality to train them....there were 3 rott's in the obedience class I was attending (for my dog, not me LOL), and only 1 made it clear through the class. One was the owners fault, brain dead and wasn't doing anything right, wound up giving the dog to a friend, the second drop-out was a surrender on the owners part....in the first two weeks he realized he didn't have the personality to handle a rott, still kept the dog, but gave up on training. The one that actually made it through the whole class was an eye opener. I watched this dog during the heel sessions, plant his feet and risk getting his head seperated from his shoulders rather than "obey" his master....the instructor thought it was owners technique, so SHE tried it and had the rott wig out on her....she handed the leash back to the owner and told him it isn't you that dog is just a very dominant personality. Anyway, everything I had read previous too and since then stated the same thing about rotts. It isn't a raising issue, or environment, it is the breed....Rottweilers are VERY, VERY, dominating and need a strong, steady hand (figuatively and literally) to raise and train and they must be trained, otherwise they are too big, muscular and strong a personality....they will literally run over everyone. Again, not a good idea. I am not against rott's, I don't hate them, just they need to be thought about long and hard before they are brought into a family. I, myself own an Akita, which is another notorious breed, but enjoy them thoroughly. I will admit to not having him trained 100%, but on the leash he is a baby....it is off the leash that he and I have our disagreements.

Anyway, sorry for rambling, but I didn't want you to go buy another load of trouble....sounds like you have enough on your plate without adding a puppy, much less a rott puppy.

Good luck and keep hangin' in there, we're here to listen when you need to vent,
tk

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