Just when things were calming down...

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Just when things were calming down...
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:22pm

...my xh's employer called me today to let me know that they had to fire him today due to cut-backs. So all that court mess and agony that I went through for a year was for nothing because now I won't be getting a cent! He's not going to break a sweat looking for a decent job because that way he won't have to pay support. He's pulled this stunt before with ex wife #1. His mistake was he told me what he'd done so now I know what he's capable of. And it couldn't have happened at a worse time of year. Right before the Christmas season. I don't know how I'm going to pull Christmas off for my kids now. I was going to ask my mom for a loan but she just had to go and buy a new washer which dipped into her Christmas money so I can't do that.


I can't win for losing. I'm so ready to give up on everything. No matter how hard I try to better myself and get ahead I always seem to get kicked back to ground zero. My kids are already griping because I have no money. Just wait til Christmas. They'll really be griping then. And it's my fault. I've failed my kids by not being able to provide them with things that they'd like to have. Their friends, while not spoiled, have parents who have comfortable incomes and can provide their kids with stuff that I just can't. I have to rely on my mother just to provide groceries and clothing for them most of the time. Forget the extras. I know money doesn't buy love, and I give my kids my presence and attention but I just feel like that's not enough. I feel like I've failed them at some level.


Now I have to face the prospect of taking on

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:48pm

you have not failed your kids, xh has failed his kids...there is a difference and you better make sure those kids know it !!!!


You are doing everything in your power to make things better, i'm sure they see that !!


hang in there, we are here for you


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Registered: 05-22-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 3:57pm

Oh Traci, I am so sorry. Horrible, horrible timing. Far too many a**holes in the world. I am so sorry this is happening to you - I wish there was something I could say to help!

Many, many hugs, Kelli





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Registered: 04-27-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 4:15pm

Traci, you are not a failure. As you know I do this to myself as well. I put myself down as a mom because I don't have the financial means to give my dd things she needs and wants. I do love my dd and she knows that. She may not be happy when I can't do things for her financially but she does know I love her and if I could do it I would. That is just the way things are. I didn't have things givin to me growing up, actually I did without things I needed like food and heat a times. It wasn't fun. I had to babysit in order to get my school supplies and school cloths. As much as we don't want our kids to struggle, some times it seems like they will have to and maybe it isn't the worst thing for them.


Your kids are at the age were they need to learn mommy can't do it all and to learn you are doing the best you can. Mommy needs to learn

     ~ Tina ~