Tina

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tina
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 4:06pm

Can you email me again please? I deleted your email by mistake before putting you in my address book.

U okay???

Love you,

Keli

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Registered: 04-27-2006
In reply to: keli003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 8:55am

I have been depressed real bad. The thing with dd triggered me and I haven't been able to pick myself back up to well yet. It has been so hard. I think the holidays coming up is a trigger as well with missing my mom. I know it will all be ok. Some how I need to get out of this funk.


T.




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Registered: 08-11-2006
In reply to: keli003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 2:46pm

I don't know how long it has been since you lost your mom, but the holidays are tough for a while when you lose someone close to you. My dad and I weren't real close, but I don't know how it is going to be during Thanksgiving with him not sitting there at the head of the table. I know I won't have the guts to sit in his chair....none of us kids did when we were all home for the funeral.

{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}
tk

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In reply to: keli003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 2:53pm

This is the reason I don't really want to do Thanksgiving...just want to forget the day exists...but if I do that, i will also be skipping my wedding anniversary (not that i think it will be special, it won't)


christmas will be horrible, we went to my grams on xmas eve, but didn't last year.

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Registered: 04-27-2006
In reply to: keli003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 3:06pm

My mom died Aug 23, 2005. The holidays last year were real hard but this year is hard too. I was still in shock some last year. My mom and I were extremely close. She was my best friend. I could talk to her about anything. It is real hard not being able to pick up the phone and call her. Sorry about the loss of your dad. Even when you don't get along with someone it still affects you when they die.


My brother died Nov. 2003 and my bf's dad who I was very close to died Nov. 2004. So, I dealt with multiple losses one right after the other. My dad died when I was 17. Both my Grandparents, my dads mom and dad died in 2000. My aunts, my dads sisters died, one in 1998 or 99 and the other 2001. I am losing a lot of my family. My mom's side I am not real close to at all.


I still have my sister, my dd, my neice and great neice. I am thankful for that.


Tina




     ~ Tina ~

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Registered: 08-11-2006
In reply to: keli003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 3:39pm

{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Tina. Sounds like it has been a rough few years. My grandparents were all before I was really old enough for it to register (wasn't close to any of them also). My dad....he was who he was....it was just hard to get to know him. He was a great dad in so many ways, just not real close to any of us kids....kind of kept a distance. My siblings all say I probably had a closer relationship with him after I went into the military than any of them. I got him to open up and talk a little where the others never could....some was I happened to live closer and drug him out to things that would trigger memories and get him to talking. So much knowledge and history went with him that we all knew was there, but couldn't get him to share, or when he did we should've taken notes and we didn't. ALL of us boys would call him when something mechanical would stump us....it was such a shock to me the first time he told me to try 3 or 4 things and I had already tried that and he admitted he was stumped too. I wasn't ever supposed to get smarter than dad....he knew it ALL. If dad didn't know, then where was I supposed to go for answers?

None of my siblings have started passing away yet, so I am thankful for that. I am the baby so I am figuring on seeing most of the older 3 die before me, not a pleasant thought, but something I am starting to prepare myself for. I hope I have a few more years with my mom before that happens....I hear you on calling her up and just talking. DW laughingly says a call to my mom NEVER lasts less than an hour. It took several years after I got out on my own before I "made" back up with my mom, but now she is someone I can turn to....yet I still have some problems when we go back to visit because she doesn't approve of the way we are feeding DD. We let DD choose what she wants and when and my mom is still old school, sit down for 3 meals a day and that is it....DD is 8 and still only ways 50 lbs so she isn't over eating....in fact all the GP's claim she is too skinny, but my family is small boned anyway. I only weighed 125 when I graduated at 5' 11"....I was the ONLY one in my military basic squadron who put ON weight in basic....gained 10 lbs.

Well a little off thread, but it kind of all ran together in a strange way. Hear is some {{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}} to help you through the holidays and know we are all here for you and pulling for you.

tk

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