Family using BP to there advantage
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| Sun, 11-19-2006 - 1:50pm |
Hello There, Got a couple of questions. I'm pretty new to the board. I'm wondering if any ones, family using them being Bp to there advantage. Like if I get Mad enough to yell or show my butt even, (for a good reason). They will say oh she must not be taking her med's. Or "Are you taking your medicine. I know what I want to ask but I may not be able to get it typed very well. Just sometimes, I feel they think I stupid, or not stable. And alot (it seems) DH thinks he is pulling stuff over one me, when really most of the time I just let it slide on by and think to myself, I really got the message. DH is forever saying that my family is just trying to push my buttons. With things they say or do. And, he does the same thing, but he thinks I don't see that. Does any of this stuff happen to anyone else,
I got see my PDOC tomorrow, "THANK GOD"
I would love any ones thoughts or replies!!!!
Thanks Again
Shelia

I have BP and I am also mildly autistic. I can say, when you have a disorder of any kind, you are under a microscope and have to accept that- it's just how people are. You have to prove that you are a real person deserving of real person privileges.
Something in your post was disturbing enough to me to offer this warning: do not give the people in your life ammunition by behaving how they expect you to! You say you "show your butt" when you get angry? Listen, that is NOT a mature way to handle yourself in a disagreement! That is the kind of behavior that gives the ignorant ammunition. The best way to handle yourself is to calmly (without raising your voice if possible) explain your position, and also be prepared to see the other person's side and negotiate. If you lose control anger-wise, that gives the other side power over you and they know it on some level or other. Don't do it!
Express!
Beth "Petrouchka"
Beth, Thank you so much for answering me. And, when I said I show my Butt. Maybe once ever six months. But yes your right. Its just so hard sometime to ignore there stupid crap. and, all the time they think it never regestered with me. And, they are suppose to love you more than anyone else does.
thank again
shelia
I can relate.
It's seems like every shortcoming and the BP issue gets dragged across the rug.
My memory is a good example.
I've never had very good memory.
Whenever I forget something (especially if it's a big deal): Will this Bipolar demon ever get off my back?! --DH
My kids, also, take liberty in my short fuse and act out even more than usual.
Doesn't seem to bother them much that I'm yelling at the top of my lungs.
You'd think they'd be careful to not break the rules.
But no, 'let's see how far we can push mom.'
And later I regret my temper and all my lashing out.
My countertop and the cabinets seems to get the brunt of my wrath--sometimes I can do this instead of yelling.
Edited 11/19/2006 8:08 pm ET by tallyn75
My family, other than my daughter, doesn't know I'm BP for just this reason--everything I ever did or said would immediately be discounted because I'm BP.
Thanks to all of you for your response, at least I know I not by myself! My mother died when I was 10 and I'm 42 know, since then I always knew that something wasn't right with me. I have been to alot of pdoc off and on all my life, they always said depression, add, adhd, border line personality etc...... About a year and a half ago, I found a pdoc in Little Rock, Ark, That said I was BP. Started me on medication and I have been doing 75% better, so I thought DH would never use it againt's me, But go figure. Should of know better. But today when I posted I was a the end of my rope.
I CAN'T THANK YOU ALL ENOUGH. "REALLY"
Shelia
Yea mine does from time to time. DH just called me a nut job over the weekend and when I was ready for a sane conversation to call him back. Hes the 1 with mood swings HE quite smoking (yea really but the moods are hard to handle with my own LoL) Also bill's ALWAYS get smart remarks not friendly reminders about did you pay this? I missed 3 car payments last year almost lost the car found out by a repo letter!