the bitter/sweet scoop on the xh - trigs

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Registered: 05-02-2006
the bitter/sweet scoop on the xh - trigs
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:53pm

*********Triggers***********


well, the good news is xh found a job. but (a) it doesn't start until january 8 and (b) he'll be driving a school bus with the same school system i drive for. he's already telling me we're going to have to recalculate the child support amount, so i'm guessing he's planning on not taking an 8 hour contract even if one's available. so where i was thinking this second job i just took on would be a temporary thing, it's looking like it's going to be a permanent thing. i swear the man lives to make me miserable. how can i be an effective parent if i'm never home to be with my kids? i wouldn't be. it's that simple. i don't feel much like anything right now. i don't know if i want to live or die. i'm starting to think it wouldn't make a difference one way or the other. my kids won't see me anyway. but yet, i don't want to die. i'm just really messed up right now and once again i have xh to thank for this latest setback.


thanks for letting me vent.


traci

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:09pm

Your xh sounds like a real piece of work. Sorry he is treating you and his kids so irresponsibly....can DEFINITELY see why he is an Xh. This is one of my soapbox issues and it isn't just men, there are women too who do all they can to escape their responsibilities to the children they brought into this world.

That is not a judgement on you, YOU traci are doing everything you can to provide for your children and balance that with "quality" time with them as well. That is a delicate balancing act I find myself fighting allot too. Work, time with DW, and time with the kids....sometimes feel like no-one gets enough. LOL.

Good luck,
tk

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 5:08pm

(((((((((((((((((((((Traci))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


What a real piece of work xh is. I wish I had some good advice for you but at this time I don't. My mind is in a cloud with this depression, but I wanted you to know I am sorry this a$$ is putting you through this. I hate the men that do this. There are some nice guys out there but there is too many jerks. Wish we could send the bad ones on an island to fight with one another.


Love & Hugs


Tina




     ~ Tina ~