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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 9:14pm
This is a question to all the wifes, girlfriends,husbands and boyfriends who are in love. I met a wonderful man that i love dearly and plan on marrying..i have been doing my research on bipolar i know its rough illness and it has it ups and downs..what i am asking is are ya happy..do you regret it at all..i am only asking is becase the input i got from other boards its that they all seem to want to get out. i love my man and i don't ever want to hurt him... i am starting to learn what his triggers are and how to help him tru them and i know we will have our ups and downs..like everyone else just maybe a little more or less...i thinki just want to hear some good storie for a change..I mean so far we get along good..we have our little spats like everyone else..but the difference her is our relationship right now is long distance we have spent about a moth and a half together and it was great.. and we talk everyday both online and the phone we hae constant contact..i know its not the same as living together on a daily basis..but its all we have right now..any input would be greatly appreciated and well listened too..
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Registered: 04-06-2005
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 4:06pm

Hi and Welcome !


I think that in most cases on our board, the bp was found after they were married, and that can make a big difference.


You know he is bp ahead of time and you are doing research.

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Registered: 04-07-2002
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 5:34pm

HI! I thought I recognized you from the ldr board-

Maybe I should have my DH write this. We have known each other since '99, and have been in a relationship that started ld back in 2001. We are married, have been since June of '05, and are happy. My bp has never been a major point of contention- he knows it is the source of some of my flaws and has been an annoyance because of my needing medical attention at least once a month, but I don't remember ever even arguing about any of it (and yes, we do argue, so it's not a case of not communicating).

I'll see if I can get him to come on here and say more...

Express!
Beth "Petrouchka"

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Registered: 07-21-2005
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 8:04pm

Hi,
I married my husband in March 2005 and he knew I was bp before we got married. However, he told me later that he seemed to have this idea that he could fix me and help me get better, and now my bp has been the cause of a great deal of stress and frustration for him. He loves me and knows its not my fault and is as supportive as he can be, but its overwhelming for him and very hard to deal with, but he doesnt handle stress well in general, so I would say that its something you need to look at clearly and objectively, after all, its a life long committment to be married to someone and being married to someone with bp is much more difficult. He tells me its like having an additional child when my bp is really giving me trouble. If your soon to be husband is able to control his bp well with medication and you are certain you can handle it at its worst, then by all means marry him, but just think long and hard about it first, dont let your feelings for him overwhelm you and make you have the idea of being his saviour.

Hope this is helpful and not too harsh
Rebekah

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 3:40pm
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:23am
Thanks for your input everyone it is appreciated..but i don't know what bump means i have seen it before but really don'y know what that means..can some one please explain it ..thanks..
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:28am

when a post falls from the main page and you have to find it by going to the next page, we can reply and just type in 'bump' to get it back to the front...

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:02am
Thank you Donna,...I have seen that so many times and didn't know what it meant..:).