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| Sat, 04-21-2007 - 11:07pm |
Hi All!
Sorry about being absent for so long, I've had tons going on and it all seemed to start when I was put out of work back in the beginning of March. A fellow employee turned me in for being on meds and I've been out of work ever since until further testing could be done. Well, then my eldest dd went i/p during all this. She was in for 2 weeks so I was up and down the road for family meetings and visiting hours, plus going to school and trying to find a doc who would do these tests I needed done. I finally found a doc that would do the test and had my first consultation appointment with him in the beginning of april. Then during spring break my eldest dd had a Scottish exchange student that was supposed to stay here at the house. That lasted one night. The girl couldn't stand the smoke smell in the house and didn't like the animals. These were both pointed out to the girl before she ever came to the states and it was no problem up until the first night. Well that sent dd into a tail spin. So I spent most of spring break trying to boost her spirits so she wouldn't sink back into a depression.
Then came Easter weekend. We went camping and it was a trip that will not soon be forgotten. Everything that could go wrong did. It was bitter cold outside so we ran the heater in the camper until, of course, the propane ran out. When I got the tank refilled the pilot light wouldn't re-light. So we went to the local Wal Mart and bought 2 space heaters for the camper. Plugged them in and blew a major fuse so we had no electricity or heat and it was 23 degrees. So we decided to head down the road to a hotel for the night. The next day we packed up the camper and headed for home. Well, what should have been a simple drive home turned into a nightmare. I got too close to a jersey wall and swerved to miss it. But the weight of the trailer pulled me too far to the right and I almost hit a van in the other lane. So I swerved again, and again almost hit the jersey wall. So, I swerved again and this time clipped the back end of the van, swerved back hit and bounced off the jersey wall, spun around and did a 180 degree turn on the interstate and somehow by the grace of God landed on the shoulder of the road. Fortunately nobody got hurt. I got charged with wreckless driving - failure to maintain the vehicle. Not good for work related reasons. Especially with all that has kept me out of work thus far. The insurance adjustor totaled my truck. So I had to go back down there and clean it out so that was another day shot. The accident happened 3 1/2 hours from home. So I ended up staying the night down there and headed back home the next morning.
The tuesday after the wreck I had the actual test for me to be able to go back to work. I'm still waiting to hear back from the doc to find out if I passed or failed. He said he would e-mail me the results. I have checked every day and so far nothing. I'm not getting paid, I'm not getting child support...AGAIN, and I've got bills to pay. This is really messing with my stability. Tdoc is worried because she is seeing signs that I'm heading down "that road" again. I feel it taking its toll and I'm fighting it with all I've got.
Earlier this week my 10 yo ds wanted me to take him shopping for clothes. I told him I couldn't because I didn't have the money and told him to call his father and ask him. Apparently xh said he would. The next day xh called and talked to my 14 yo dd and asked if ds was here and ready. DD asked ready for what and xh told her that I was crying poor and wanted him to spend money on clothes for ds. This didn't help my mood any.
So, it's been an eventful time around my household. I apologize for my absence. I will try to get to your posts.
Hugs,
Traci

Traci,
Can I be nosy and ask why you're not receiving child support?
Sorry to hear about your traffic mishap. It would be a bad thing for anyone, but with your current circumstances, it could end up causing problems in other areas too. I don't envy you.
Dawn
(((((Traci)))))
I promise I didn't give that Sh.. fairy your address, but it sure sounds like she found you on her own!
Hopefully doc will give you good news about your tests tomorrow.
Hi Traci,
Good to see you posting again!
Hi Dawn,
My story with my ex is long and drawn out, but the short version is I took him back to court this past fall to get an increase in child support because he was no longer paying for his 2 adult children from his first wife. I won the suit in August. In November he got laid off from his job, so my support stopped then until he started getting unemployment and then I was only getting a fraction of what the court awarded me, but at least it was something. Then in January, he started working at the same place I work at. He would send me money here and there and had been averaging 2 months behind because of the layoff in November. So by March he was current as of January. Then when I was put out of work, he decided that for whatever reason, he didn't have to pay child support anymore and I haven't seen a dime since the beginning of March.
As for the car accident, I will deal with the fall out when it happens. I have to take my life one day at a time right now because I can't survive it any other way. I get spun out of control way too easily if I do.
Hugs,
Traci
Hi Marci,
Well, the Sh== Fairy is still lingering. I still haven't heard anything from the doc about the tests. I called him today and left a message on his voice mail and he never called me back. So, I will call him tomorrow and the next day if I have to until I get results. This has gone on too long. As for pay, unless I take legal action and win, I will receive compensation for the day of the test and the insurance might reimburse me for the cost of the test itself. But, as for all the time I've been off, I will only get paid for 1 day. Doesn't quite seem fair, but then that's why I'm looking into filing some sort of action against the county.
As for xh, he's just being a class jerk. He enjoys watching me suffer. He expects my mother to bail me out figuring it's her responsibility to help me raise his children. That has always been his way of thinking, even back when we were married. He'd get me to borrow money from my mother if we were short on bills or for groceries or what not instead of pursuing means of support for his kids. He's just a real butt-head.
Thanks for the love, p & pt and hugs. I hope all is going well with you. I'm just waiting everything out and trying to keep a clear head about everything.
Love & Hugs,
Traci