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| Thu, 05-10-2007 - 6:45pm |
I just typed this out and it disappeared - so I will try again! I really am feeling like crap about myself. Last night I was losing it. Really losing it. I have known a guy for about two years now (when we were teenagers we went out and everything was great, he was great). Anyway I think he has bipolar or something else or a combination of things. One day he loves me, the next day he won't talk to me because I left a towel on the floor. I recently moved and for the first time since we were teenagers he lives very close to me. This is what he said he wanted! Well everytime we are supposed to get together he bails out. He makes all these plans with me and cancels and I am left feeling like crap. He even one time did not meet me at the airport after I flew somewhere to see him. Anyway, last week I found out he lied to me -while he can't seem to see me he managed to take another girl out who he "hit it off with." Knowing him it can't last long, and maybe was only a one or two date kind of thing. Anyway, yesterday I talk to him and he acted like nothing was wrong. Meanwhile I was hysterical for two days last week because of his behavior. Today he sent me a mail asking to go to lunch. I ignored him. Then he sent me a text. I ignored him again. I am tired of setting myself up for him just to blow me off. I feel like my self esteem is awful. I know he really cares about me, he says he loves me, but it is like he can't get it together and I keep getting hurt over and over.
Please don't say to stop all contact with him. I have done that in the past and then we always end up talking again and he tells me he missed me more than I possibly could imagine - and I tell you I think he is really serious when he says these things.
Thanks for listening.

He don't have it together at all.
You should not feel like crap over some broken promises.
Do not let anyone wrap you up in there world of confusion,
and bring you down.
Be honest with him about how you feel if he doesn't change or want help there's
not much to do.
Well good luck relax everything will work out stay positive.
Sparkleeyes..........
Live life well & Always look ahead.
I won't say to stop all contact with him, but I will say to let him know how his behavior makes you feel. You don't deserve the lies that he's been dishing out. You are a better person than that. And if he really loves you he'll stop lying to you. Tell him these things and see what happens from there. I can't say that he's bipolar or not. If you think he should be evaluated, maybe suggest that he see a proffesional, but do it when he's in accepting mood. NOT when he's in a nasty mood. I know things are hard for you right now and I really hope they get better for you.
Keep us posted on how things are going with you. We're here to help and support you in anyway possible. Hang in there and take care of you. Don't forget to do that while you are going through this difficult time.
Hugs,
Traci
I've been down that road and I know it hurts like Hell!
Honey,
If you keep up this relationship/friendship, you have to understand that this will continue to happen on a daily basis...whether he is BP or not, he is obviously manipulative and not at all concerned about your feelings.The only way to stop someone who is manipulative is to stop allowing it to happen.
I'm sorry you are gong through this.
Hugs,
Keli
Thank you all so much for your replies. He asked me to get together the other day and I ignored him. Basically I am just not strong enough right now to deal with it. He didn't contact me to wish me a happy mother's day - I am sure because I didn't answer him about if I wanted to see him. Yes I think he absolutely has mental health issues. I also think he needs to be accountable for some of his actions because they have REALLY hurt me. He is the only person I know well in the area, which makes not contacting him really hard. I am going to try to work on myself a little and come up with some boundries too. Yes I need to stop allowing this to happen. That is why when he asked me to meet him the other day - I didn't say yes. I could not take the chance of him hurting me that day.
Again thank you so much for your reply.