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Help with boyfriend's mom
| Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:29am |
I need help! My boyfriend's mom is bipolar and I don't know how to deal with her. My main problem is that she blows things completely out of proportion. She hears one thing and turns it into this crazy mess. I get the feeling all the time that she doesn't like me, though my boyfriend always tells me the opposite. We want to get engaged, but I really believe that if I don't feel like she likes me then I can't marry him. I want to have a good relationship with her. His other family members suggested that I talk to her and say that I want to clear the air about the negative impression that she has of me. But een after that, if I do marry my boyfriend, how do I deal with someone who blows things out of proportion all the time which causes unneccesary drama?

Hi there...this is hard. You and your boyfriend have to set boundaries with her...and I know that isn't easy, I still haven't figured out how to do it myself. I realize that if you marry, her influence will have a major impact on your marriage, if you let it.
What about seeking some counseling together?
I would also talk to her and try to clear the air, if you have that kind of relationship. Just don't approach her with an accusatory tone, or she will flip. So to speak.
Best of luck!! Keep us posted.
Hugs,
keli