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wife with Qs about husband
| Fri, 06-01-2007 - 10:56am |
greetings all!
please be patient with me if I word things in a clumsy way. I am trying to understand what may be going on with my DH and want some help. My DH is 39, has adult ADD and is on meds for that. He is the moodiest person I know, and was before the ADD or meds were even an issue. He can go for several weeks being the nicest, easiest guy you would ever want to meet, keeping to a decent eating and sleeping schedule, working out, on time from work, nice with me and our two boys, just a nice easy to be around kinda guy, then out of the blue, he gets sullen, silent, starts staying up too late, not eating, won't answer questions about what he is doing, why he is late from work, etc. I have wondered if he is having an affair, but I just do not think he is that kind of person. The other thing he does is when he is in those "on top of the world" moods, he is terrible with money. In the past 10 months he has cost us almost $3000 in bad money decisions. The last time he bought something without telling me and then made no effort to make the payments on it and the only way I found out is when a lawyer contacted us. He took a second small job to pay off his debt but he is just surly about it, which kills me because HE DID IT, not me!!!! Does some of that sound like bipolar? I do not know if I can live with these moods any more. Our kids are starting to notice. He is not a dependable person at all--I worry when he is home with them alone because he just does not watch them. Last time he was home with them while I worked, they made a total mess with art supplies that he did not clean up because he was looking at porn on the internet--while the kids were home. Help me decide if this is bipolar or something else.
thank you
dana
please be patient with me if I word things in a clumsy way. I am trying to understand what may be going on with my DH and want some help. My DH is 39, has adult ADD and is on meds for that. He is the moodiest person I know, and was before the ADD or meds were even an issue. He can go for several weeks being the nicest, easiest guy you would ever want to meet, keeping to a decent eating and sleeping schedule, working out, on time from work, nice with me and our two boys, just a nice easy to be around kinda guy, then out of the blue, he gets sullen, silent, starts staying up too late, not eating, won't answer questions about what he is doing, why he is late from work, etc. I have wondered if he is having an affair, but I just do not think he is that kind of person. The other thing he does is when he is in those "on top of the world" moods, he is terrible with money. In the past 10 months he has cost us almost $3000 in bad money decisions. The last time he bought something without telling me and then made no effort to make the payments on it and the only way I found out is when a lawyer contacted us. He took a second small job to pay off his debt but he is just surly about it, which kills me because HE DID IT, not me!!!! Does some of that sound like bipolar? I do not know if I can live with these moods any more. Our kids are starting to notice. He is not a dependable person at all--I worry when he is home with them alone because he just does not watch them. Last time he was home with them while I worked, they made a total mess with art supplies that he did not clean up because he was looking at porn on the internet--while the kids were home. Help me decide if this is bipolar or something else.
thank you
dana

I don't believe any of here are docs, but your hubby does seem to show signs of bp. Try to get him to agree to a psychiatric evaluation. Whether his problem is bp or something else, he would probably benefit from the evaluation.
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Beth "Petrouchka"
Dana,
He certainly has some of the common symptoms of BP (and it's possible to be both ADD & BP, actually fairly common).
If he hasn't had a complete physical in the last year or so, I'd definitely recommend he get one--thyroid problems and other health issues can cause mood swings too, so it's good to rule them out.