DD refuses treatment for bipolar
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| Wed, 07-18-2007 - 11:32pm |
My dd and I had another big arguement today. She is upset because I have set rules for her and she didn't like my tone with her. Told me I don't have to talk to her like that. My sister was there and told my dd that I wasn't talking to her in a bad way and my dd was over reacting and was out of control. I am trying to help my dd the best I can. I have tried many many times to get her therapy and take meds. She went to a pdoc a couple times and tdoc but refuses to take meds or go back to counseling. She will be 18 in Sept.
I am allowing her to live in my old apartment. I live with my fiance. Her dad kicked her out because she wasn't obeying his rules for curfew. I gave her her rules today for staying at the apartment and she went off on me. I told her she needs therapy and she refuses to go. I am at my wits end to say the least.
My lupus symptoms are kicking in full forse. I am so sore now and I feel like someone beat me with a 2x4. I am totally drained too. I am already having problems with fatigue. I am taking my Plaquenil and 2 pain pills tonight and see if it helps any.
DD decided to tell this girl who was living in her car, that is a friend of my dd's from high school that she could move in. So that put me in a bad spot. What I am supposed to do tell this girl go back and live in your car, but my dd had no right telling her she could live there. That makes me so upset. I am already allowing my dd who isn't on my lease to live there. She doesn't understand what I am doing for her.
I told dd she will just have to get used to dealing with my "tone" and respect me because I am her mother....period. I am very good to my dd. But I can't let her mistreat me. I told her before I left the apartment if she doesn't figure away to get along with me and my rules, she can move out. Honestly I don't know where she would go. Maybe should find a friend to move with and pay 2 x's more rent. But maybe that is what she will need to appreciate what I do for her.
Her problems with authority is one of the reasons she moved back in with her father 2 times and then back with me. I tried over and over again to help her but just like anyone else...you can't help those who don't want to be helped. So basically I am left at a dead end it seems. I don't know what else to do for the girl. She refuses to see she has bipolar and needs treatment no matter who tells her or how many people tell her.
Thanks for reading !
Tina

Didn't sleep all night. I finally went to sleep at 6 am but woke up at 11 am. Going to be dragging all day.
This is tuff. I feel so alone on this. I wish my mom was still here. She will have been dead for 2 years as of august 23.
Just thought I could talk things out here and get some support.
Take care everyone.
I hope your day is going well.
Tina
~ Tina ~
Brenda
Hey Tina...I know how you feel. Mike is a year younger than Jaime, but they are a lot alike. Raising a teenager is really really hard...then add BP and you really are at your wits end!
Jaime knows how good she has it...but its going to take reality slapping her in the face before she realizes it fully.
You are right...there isn't any thing you can do to help her now. She has to help herself...or at least allow herself to be helped.
Hang in there...and email me if you want...I miss you. I've been so busy that I haven't been online much lately.
Love you tons,
Keli