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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 12:56pm
do you think he should have suggested switching counselors? What are your thoughts on this subject. I like him as a counselor, not because of how I feel, but he does help me dealing with bipolar issues.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 1:57pm

It does seem odd to me that he didn't suggest that you switch to a different counselor....Otherwise, good luck & I hope you can still benefit from his services w/o any awkward feelings. I have never been to a counselor(but i would like to)so i don't fully know how you feel,but I have had crushes on people who were already attached or married . I wonder if it is the "forbidden fruit" aspect of it that is so appealing at the time...who knows?

best wishes,
Wonderbread77

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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 12:09am

Maybe what you're feeling is transference. My very basic description is projecting feelings from your past (that you might not even be aware of) to your therapist. You can also have transference onto other people in your life. They aren't always sexual either.


Here's a link to answers.com. It was a little 'deep' for me to read so late at night. Other places have better descriptions but I can't remember where I found them.


http://www.answers.com/transference?cat=health


I wouldn't change therapists unless you want to. Therapist are supposed to be used to dealing with patients having feelings like that toward them. Maybe you could figure out why you think you're attacked to him. The hardest step is supposed to be just bringing the feelings out in the open.





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crazy

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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 11:38am
That makes sense. Thank you for the website. It wasn't until my therapist and I started talking about my past abuse that I started having these thoughts toward him. I am not going to change therapist, just going to work through these feelings. Thanks again.
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 2:50pm

I'm glad I could help some. I have some work to do myself, too.


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crazy

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 12:30am

It's not all that uncommon a thing--here's a warm, helpful guy that sincerely cares & if he's good looking, even better!