Bi-Polar and some other stuff

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Bi-Polar and some other stuff
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Sun, 11-25-2007 - 8:57pm

Hi Everyone, Hope all of you had a great weekend. I have some questions I would like to ask. Myself and my dh think that he might be bp, or maybe just feeling overwhelmed with work, holidays, money, and strees. You know how it goes. I am a very high maitnence person to be around sometimes.lol. But I will tell you his mood swings are more severe than mine. One minute happy go lucky, and the next in a real temper. Loud yelling and stuff like that. Don't like when he yells at 13yr. old ds. So of course I have to intervine, when he starts the yelling stuff. He is a great dh, and a great father, please don't get me wrong. Like right now happy as a clam. Will go beyond the limits so often to be a help to me, and really is a decent husband. He has been this way for a while so I shouldn't even have mentioned the holidays. Though they certainly can be soooo stressful. Anyway, I'm on SSI, so I get my insurance through Kaiser, his insurance through his work is ok for medical, but is not covered for mental health. Ticks me off. He works for a sm. company, so guess boss man thought mental health coverage wasn't worth it. Anywho does anyone have any ideas about what he could do for getting help for at least his depression? Also does anyone know if their is a place like iVillage for men that he can go to to vent, like what I am doing now. One more thing does anyone ever feel a LOT of guilt, for what you put your family through, b/c I do, and I hate feeling guilty on top of everything else. My dh doesn't deserve my inability to do so many things, nor expecially does my 13yr. old ds. Thanks for listening and being out there.

Donna

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Sun, 11-25-2007 - 11:41pm

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 9:48am

Good Morning Jeannine,


Thanks for your support again. I talked with dh about what you wrote, and we both kind of figure that he is bp. Just from the stuff I have read about it we also think that his possible bp is type 1, just guessing here. I checked out the nami site, and learned a heck of a lot, what a site very informative. I learned so much about Lamictal. I guess when I get enough money I will join nami. Probably not until after Christmas. Money here is always tight. Paycheck to paycheck. I did take my Lamictal 25mg. last night, still woke up at 3am, went to bed at 10:30, but I also slept yesterday from 8am -1pm, b/c I was up at 2am Sat night. So I wrote all that down in my journal(wow, can't believe actually wrote in a journal yea for me lol) I was looking at your profile last night and saw that you are from AL. I was born in Germany b/c my dad(yucky man) was in the Air Force, but when I was 3 we moved to IL., and than by 5yrs old, I was living in GA. My father was born and raised in Dothan AL. I have relatives that still live in Dothan, I have been to AL. so many times, my mom pregnancy with me started in Mongomery(sp), but dad got stationed to Germany before I was born, hence my birth in Germany. Anyway, I still have relatives in Fayetville GA., and in Panama City FL. I live in Jonesboro, GA. from the age of 5 till 9, than moved close to Miami, than to Ponta Vedra Beach, close to Daytona Beach, than to Merritt Isaland, FL. till I was 17, than we moved clear across the U.S. to Ca. I have some good memories of Dothan, b/c all kinds of cousins live there that are my age. My father is buried in Dothan, he died in 2001. So he is with his mom and dad, and all of his brothers, only one sister left alive, in Panama City. We all have hopes of moving back to FL. when my 13yr.ds graduates from H.S., so it will be awile, plus at my age, don't know if I can handle that humidity(stick stuff as I remember), plus all the million of misqutos(sp)lol. Time will tell. I have to wake up my son now for sch. it's 6:45 here. So will talk with you later, and I hope you are having a good morning. BTW, do you ever get up in the wee hrs of night, and than take a long nap in the day? I know this is a personal question, so if you don't answer, all is cool. Have a good one.

Donna

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:15pm

If you aren't opposed to it (which would be understandable), men are welcome to post at iVillage, as well. The majority of posters are women, but there are even some male cl's on a couple of boards. On the three boards that I cl, I have men who post regularly on one, once in a while on another, and never on the third. He wouldn't be the only man around. :)

Also, just so you know for future reference, it's against TOS for anyone to post about another message board on iVillage. That is probably why you haven't received any responses here about that question. :)

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:29pm

Donna,


You might have DH double

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 3:05pm

Hey hey Donna,


well ya sound really good no feeling not right from the lamictal right? Good! I am surprised your pdoc didn't tell you, though you might wanna ask him. non-schedule sleeping is a no-no with people with BP . Your suppose to ( I know its early yet so you might have a bigtime problem accomlishing this) go tobed the same time every day ,wake up the same time and NO napping. It has something to do with our




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Registered: 11-20-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 7:42pm

Steph,


Thanks for letting me know that men sometimes are on ivillage, what I don't understand is that you said that I violated the TOS by mentioning another board, in all seriousness I really don't know what you are referring to. I read the TOS, and I really am confused, don't want to get kicked off of iVillage b/c of something I did wrong. So if you will be more specific I would really appriciate it. Thanks. BTW, my spell check doesn't work for some reason, it did over at my sisters, but not on my computer, and the computer is only 1.5yrs old. So sorry for any misspells.

Donna

Donna

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 8:07pm
Marci, I didn't totally explain correctly, dh has m.h. ins. He just has to pay pdoc or tdoc 100% up to &5,000 and than 100% for meds. up to $2,000. It is upsurd. So yeah I guess you could say he has insur. Anyway, I will check into somethings that you suggested, b/c we live close to San Diego, Ca. and there are studies going on all the time, plus a lot of universities. Since I misrepesented my post here about dh insur. do you think that he can still try the mental health clinics if he has that stupid m.h. coverage? Since you are one of the cl of this board, a question for you. Someone said that I was in error of the TOS, to post about another message board. I am confused, b/c I read TOS, and truly don't understand what I did that was wrong. So if you could explain I would appriciate it, I really don't want to do anything wrong here at iVillage, and very much like being here. Thanks

Donna

Donna

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:40pm
I was responding to this part of your post, "Also does anyone know if their is a place like iVillage for men that he can go to to vent, like what I am doing now."

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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:51pm

Donna,


I think she was




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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 7:13am
Oh come on, I did read the tos, after what you said and I'm still not getting it. All I was trying to do was to help my dh, no harm was intended. I will refrain from doing that again, sorry didn't mean to post a wrong question, and didn't know that asking for help for my dh was wrong. I can understand that we here on iVillage don't want to give out other sites/message boards, but at the same time, like I said I was just seeing if the ladies on bi-polar knew of a place for dh. I got some good advice, so that was all good. Like I said, didn't know I was doing anything wrong, expecially after reading TOS, I guess I just didn't get it. Thanks for explaining.

Donna

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