Wow, that is a LOT of work/business! I hope in the near future you get to sleep and relax some. I don't think I could do all that...I'd be ready to say, I can't do anymore and to heck with it all!
Yesterday I cleaned our apartment ---like dusting, mopping, sweeping, etc b/c, well it needed it, but also b/c I thought I had a client coming over here to discuss birthday invitations. Nice--she never called, and never showed up. She got my number from my neighbor (it's her sister) and I just found out my neighbor is a good scam artist. So it might be a blessing in disguise.
Dude! Just say no! I think it might be nice for your hubs to hang with a friend one of those days next weekend so you can rest? You need to, otherwise..... Well, you know it's not pretty. I hope you get a little down time soon, for your sake! Hang in there, it's almost fall, and that means.... Christmas shopping-- online! I LOVE Amazon! No going out for everything. This year, I already decided to buy all of my sibs the book "Go the F**K to Sleep." You'll totally get it after you have one of your own, trust me. Funniest book, ever. Listen to Samuel L. Jackson narrate it on youtube. You'll wet yourself laughing.
Here is a good site to check out. Dr Shawn Talbott just wrote a book all about overcoming exhaustion and burnout. He's also appearing on a Dr. Oz episode next Wednesday, Dec 21st about secret reasons women may be exhausted.
Sound like you are having a hard time making allowances for your illness. The key to living with FM/CFS is pacing yourself, establishing limits to your activities, and maintaining boundaries. When you are chronically ill, you must reorganize your life and prioritize - put your needs first, not others. Other wise, you will get caught up in periods of over extending yourself, then crash. This tends to snowball if you do not take care of yourself. I have been living with CFS for many years, now I am disabled, unable to work any more. When my four children were young, it was very hard. I became sicker after each pregnancy, not realizing what was happening. I was unable to pace myself - I did not have the support or help I needed. I sometimes crashed and it would take a long time to recover. Hope these words of wisdom help.
WF04 wrote: When you are chronically ill, you must reorganize your life and prioritize - put your needs first, not others.
Great advice. Unfortunately, as women, we are constantly told that everybody else's needs come before ours. And when you have bills to pay and children to feed and classes to attend, it's difficult to say, "I need to sleep..." There's always that "BUT". I need to rest, BUT.... then house needs cleaning. I need a day off, BUT... my students' education will suffer. I'm exhausted and in pain, BUT... it's probably just all in my head anyway.
I'm not sure yet if I actually have FM, but there's definitely something wrong with me and it's been snowballing, just like you said, because I haven't been taking care of myself.
Wow, that is a LOT of work/business! I hope in the near future you get to sleep and relax some. I don't think I could do all that...I'd be ready to say, I can't do anymore and to heck with it all!
Yesterday I cleaned our apartment ---like dusting, mopping, sweeping, etc b/c, well it needed it, but also b/c I thought I had a client coming over here to discuss birthday invitations. Nice--she never called, and never showed up. She got my number from my neighbor (it's her sister) and I just found out my neighbor is a good scam artist. So it might be a blessing in disguise.
Here is a good site to check out. Dr Shawn Talbott just wrote a book all about overcoming exhaustion and burnout. He's also appearing on a Dr. Oz episode next Wednesday, Dec 21st about secret reasons women may be exhausted.
http://shawntalbott.com/
Check out his most recent blog
It's pretty clear to this grandmother that you are wearing yourself out.
I have been living with CFS for many years, now I am disabled, unable to work any more. When my four children were young, it was very hard. I became sicker after each pregnancy, not realizing what was happening. I was unable to pace myself - I did not have the support or help I needed. I sometimes crashed and it would take a long time to recover.
Hope these words of wisdom help.