Girls are better anyway...

I hate it when people make comments like that! I"m so sorry this happened and made you feel worse. It really is like getting stabbed emotionally. I have felt exactly like you at times. I think the worst time of my life was the year or two following the birth of my 3rd boy. I didn't have any hope at all that I would be happy ever again and would always resent my situation. It did get better though, even before I became pregnant with my last girl. I think feeling better allowed me to emotionally be ready to ttc again. I know what you mean, about how the chance to ttc another and another isn't the answer. The only thing that kept me "surviving" after my 3rd boy...was just having that "hope" that I may have another girl some day. Even when I knew there was a chance my dh would never ever let us have another baby. I guess I just brainwashed myself to thinking everything would be ok in the end. I would have lost it emotionally if I didn't do that. what are your thoughts lately on ttc? are you just kind of done with that idea and think it'll be a waste? or getting excited about the possibilities? (either way is fine, I just say do what makes you happy :)

I just want to send you BIG (((HUGS)))!! I am so sorry that person made that comment that made you feel bad, and it's not even true!! Girls are not BETTER, they are different!! Right now, you see all the good parts of them because you want one so much (and I don't blame you one bit, because I was there not too long ago too!). After I did finally get a girl, I was able to enjoy the value of my boys again! That's one of the biggest blessing I feel I got from having her, is once the veil of gender desire was removed, I was finally able to enjoy my beautiful sons for being BOYS again!!

The point you are at is so hard. I remember after the delivery of my 3rd son just wishing so bad I had a crystal ball to see how it was going to play out. I just wanted to know once and for all was it ever going to happen for me or not? The limbo was so hard!! I ended up rushing quicker than I probably would have to have my next baby cause I couldn't stand it. I knew that I was going to be done at 4 kids. I couldn't handle any more than that physically or financially, but I didn't have it in me to wait any longer to see how things were going to turn out. I just had to know. And though, I wouldn't change things cause I am SO HAPPY that I'm finally on the other side of this thing, I know I had my last two babies too close together for my own comfort and made life a little extra harder right now because of it. I know I rushed my sweet baby boy #3 to grow faster instead of just enjoying those precious moments with him as my baby while I could. :( That's a big regret for me. :(

I really do hope that your day will come! I know how it feels for you right now, I TRULY do!! And I pray for all the happiness that life can bring you! I will tell you though, that as I am typing this your sweet boys' faces are staring right at me and they are ADORABLE!!! You really are very blessed, and I hope that in between the down moments you take time to enjoy your life at the present too!! (((HUGS))) Sending any and all ~PINK~ dust I may have left for you, since I definitely won't need it anymore!!

I have no idea how I would have gotten over it if she had been boy #4, and I have thought of that often. I really don't know. I do think that a big part of me would have ALWAYS hurt to some degree over not having that experience in my life. But, I also knew that I had to be done at 4 regardless, and that's why I went with a tubal at the delivery.

I pray so bad that it happens for you, cause I know how that place you are in feels, and it is a really tough place to be. It's like, if you just had a crystal ball and could see right now if it would ever happen for you, you could go on and be happy with your life and just wait for time to play out its course. But, this waiting and not knowing and still dreaming and hoping is a form of torture. I am so sorry that you are stuck in this place, for now. :(

Definitely sending ~PINK VIBES~ your way!! (((HUGS))) & GL!!!

I have felt all of the things you have said. I basically assumed and got pg with my 3rd boy thinking it would be a girl for sure. One of the most difficult times of my life by far, accepting what the outcome ended up being , instead of what I thought it would be. After that happened...I found this board, then only realized there were things I could do to increase the chances of a certain sex. I knew I had to do some drastic swaying for a girl, I changed my whole lifestyle, diet, the way and when we dtd, you name it! and it was very difficult, because most of it was the complete opposite of how I normally ate and lived. (explains why so many boys , lol) I knew personally for myself I would have to go extreme to increase my chances for a girl. Swaying is no guarantee, but it will increase your chances....which is better than nothing :) The swaying did work for me. When you mention fall season for girls, I became pg with a girl in mid-november. I feel for me the lifestyle changes were what contributed to getting a girl though. Summer is supposedly "girl" ttc season. You can go to in-gender.com and read the forums. It has the most in depth crazy things for swaying, but it did work! Stay with us and update us if you are pg, how exciting! good luck :)