My husband and I are both in our late 40's.
As for your college-aged daughter: Lots of people go to college a plane flight away. It's not the end of the world.
As for your high school daughter: Lots of kids have to move away from their friends. It's not the end of the world.
Right now you are all dealing with less-than-ideal circumstances and I don't think it's reasonable to expect any solution to be 100% perfect, but it's not fair for you to complain that your husband has not been able to provide enough financially for your family, and also complain that his job offer is annoying to you and your daughters.
I'm not saying "suck it up and deal with it", but I am kind of saying "suck it up and deal with it". Expressing your concerns to your husband puts him in kind of an impossible position. I know you don't love the thought of moving, but do you love the thought of struggling with mortgage payments and college tuition?
Since he is the sole breadwinner (it makes me wonder how you contribute, since you don't have young children who need taking care of) then he has to do what he has to do in order to provide for his family. I really hope you can understand that.
Yes it would be nice if your DH could find a job locally & you wouldn't have to move, but that's life--what are the other options?
How close are your inlaws to Charleston/Myrtle Beach?
I'm just now getting a chance to take a look at the board and I won't have time to read/reply tonight, but Doxie64, you posted about a move a year ago and I think the board members would benefit from the information so I'm posting the link to that post:
Not Too Thrilled About Moving...AGAIN!
I would like to add most military families move every 3 to 5 years, sometimes all over the world.
Doxie, I'm also wondering what happened to last years impending move?