How do you quit smoking when your significant other won't?

Good question Karla. When I stopped smoking, I set everyone down and got a piece of paper out. I put up a few goals for the house. One of the first was a complete housecleaning...washing walls and windows included. I put my boyfriend and my roommate on the walls and I was doing windows. My BF was amazed at the real color of the kitchen wall and the living room wall. After the smoke was removed from them, we sat down again and everyone had to agree to set a common smoking area outside in order to keep the walls from turning yellow again. This kept smoke out of MY way. Then I made myself a goal to not go where people were actively smoking. I can not get someone else to stop just because I think I need to, but I can control how much smoke can come my way. I stopped going into the break room at work where they smoked. I did not go out to the patio where the smoking area was for the house, and I stayed inside the house of other friends that smoked outside. I stayed away from smoke and continued to not smoke. I was amazed at the wonderful people I got to know this way. I met a variety of women that had never smoked or had stopped smoking and we had our own little group to chat while others were outside smoking and chatting. I would have never gotten to know some of these great folks if I had been out smoking. There are so many advantages to not smoking, and this is only one. Nobody that truly wants to stop, asks their HP for the ability to stop and takes the steps to place themselves in safe non smoking areas has to worry. The quit will happen. Its not about what happens outside of me....others smoking, me needing that quick break, using cigs as an excuse to stop whatever I am getting bored or fed up doing, etc. It is how I feel inside when I smoke....shortness of breath, disgust at picking up that cig...again, trying to hide from others that I did not quit when I said I was. When I get tired of all the manipuation I have to go thru to smoke and not being comfortable with that cig anymore, I will quit. On the day I quit, I had not intended to stop. I just did. I dont know how to explain it....when I threw those cigs on the table and said "I am done..I will not spend another cent on those things.", I was done from the inside. It was not easy, but it was simple...I wanted to be free.....I wanted to be able to go and do without having to drag cigs with me. I wanted to sit in a restaurant and eat without having to run outside a couple of times during the evening....I wanted to smell good again. What a concept....it was all about me....on the inside. What he did was what he did. Just dont do it around me. He went outside. He stopped the car and got out to smoke on trips. He did not insist that I smoke and I did not insist that he quit. He did quit about 6 months later. Stayed stopped for 8 years...and 2 yrs ago, he started back. I didnt pick up a cig....and I wont, as long as the inside thinking stays convinced that I dont want to live under the domination of cigs again. This is my story....I would be interested to hear others stories. How did you stop in a smoking household? How do you stay stopped and what motivated you?