Advice re: Friend
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Advice re: Friend
| Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:47pm |
My friend and I saw a show at a club last Friday. We left from her house and she drove. I left my coat, purse, keys, and phone at her house.
At midnight, before the show was finished and while I was waiting to be served at the bar (VERY LONG wait), my friend left.
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I don't think I could forgive either.
But either way, I have to say I don't think it's entirely her fault. Why didn't you have your phone? Or a credit card (most taxis can take cards in case $10 wasn't enough to get you back)? It's never wise to go out relying 100% on someone else to get you back, even if it's someone you know and trust, you just never know what could happen, exactly as you found out! You need to take some personal responsibility for this - it's not her fault you chose to leave everything which could have helped you behind. Learn from this and move on - in the future, take at least your phone or credit card with you. If your friend is normally reliable, cut her a break. But if this is just the tip of the iceberg, if she's let you down in many ways before, maybe you're right to rethink the friendship.
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lesson learned to keep your belongings with you.....I had a friend, back in the 90's, leave me at a bar, about 1/2 hour from my house & I barely knew anyone out there, since I just moved there a few months before!!
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
It is understandable that you're having a hard time forgiving your friend.
Is this type of behavior a pattern for her?
Is it a common thing that when you hang out, one of you just disappear and left the other? How old is your friend? How long have you been friends?
I would be completely mad with her if that is not the case. What if you have been in the bathroom and just fainted? I assume that when friends hang out together, they have at least for that period of time a kind of partnership. You just don`t go and leave, as if your friend were a used napkin.
I know how it feels.
Once I went with my daughter in law and a friend of her to a big department store in the country she lives in, which is not my country. She and her friend where shopping some stuff and I told her friend, "Ok, while you see that, I´ll be in the dress department". I thought that when they where done, they will go and look for me, but they never did. I got scared, because it was not my country and didn't´t know how to take the subway back.
I didn't say a word, but I´d never put myself in a position where I feel the same. I guess she is immature and I think your friend is as well.
Good luck!