will drug testing help?
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| Mon, 02-13-2012 - 6:05pm |
will drug testing help stop the lying? will it help him face the truth... that i can't have him living with me if he's using suboxen or any drug. and that he can't lie because the test will show if he's taking it....
I found a website that sells drug tests for really cheap.... and i've bought a few.... But something inside tells me that it won't stop his problem or help the situation.
What are some of your thoughts?
He's out of the house. We talk on the phone and have gone out to dinner. He says he's been clean since last tuesday. Friday night i tested him and he was positive... said that web pages are saying it takes 7 days to clear out of the system. But even if he tests clean one time... how many times would i have to keep testing him?
maybe i'm jumping ahead? maybe he'll never test clean. I know he has a problem but he says he can just quit and be fine. I'm not buying it... then he said, well you have the test now so what's the point in lying.
anyway... i'd like to believe he'll have a breakthru. but i'm not holding my breath. I'm very angry that he's been lying again. I feel i can't trust him.... even if the tests come out good. But he doesn't want me to give up hope on him.
so anyways, what impact will drug testing have... i wonder.
Lil pepper
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I don't know your boyfriend, but I would have been insulted, angry, and get into the how dare you not trust me argument. I would have made you feel crazy for even suggesting it...made you feel like you were wrong and belittle you. Yes, I would have been using, but my desire would have been to protect my using even if it killed your soul.
And that would be a big NO, I do not want to be in a relationship without trust!
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One thing I learned from being with an alcoholic is that they can look you square in the eye and lie without giving it a thought. Something my family therapist told me once was that alcohol and certain drugs affect the part of the brain where love, emotions and aggression stem from, so in a sense, the addict/alcoholic is having a 'love" affair with the substance of choice.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
&nbs
Im just really disgusted thinking about it.
I guess this is part of the grieving process. This disgust i'm feeling today.
I'm suppose to go to his house tonight with another test. He claims it will be negative.
:(
I am not trying to be disrespectful - I really care!
Yes, it's sadly the same parallel, and unfortunately, just like a jilted SO, you're trying to prove to yourself that this man is trustworthy, even though he has failed miserably time and again.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
&nbs
I did not go to his house with another test. He kept calling and calling and I turned off my phone. You are right about the questioning and doubting.
So, now what?
One day at a time.
Lil pepper
I am so glad you chose not to deal with him last night.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
&nbs
Tomorrow I am helping a friend move. It should be some great female bonding/support. And I'm sure it will be a blessed day.
Thanks again
Lil pepper
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