Newbie on board

Hi Soul - and welcome to the board! I meant to do that earlier, pardon my tardiness in extending that welcome.

Also is it okay to call you Soul? SM? At some point, we will probably talk about getting you a new, more positive sounding name - but shhh...the Chief Name-Giver is not here to notice, so it's fine for now. :)

Okay, so there were d-days on both sides, and it's all out in the open? That makes things harder in a lot of respects, but it can also make some things easier, as well. I know, that sounds strange, but it really can.

So the first thing to do is to be a little easier on yourself. You're only a couple of weeks out from everything - and you are in the worst part of things. But - they DO get better, I promise!

I don't remember if anyone has directed you over to EAS (Ending an Affair) yet, but they have a healing library there that is filled with all kinds of really great stuff, so when you have a minute or an hour, you could check that out as well.

The second thing is that you aren't alone on your healing journey. :) All of us here and on EAS have been where you are - and lived to tell the tale. It isn't an easy journey - but you will not be alone on it. We are here to support you - to help, to listen, and to understand. So never, ever hesitate to post or reach out. What you are feeling is all completely normal - and by sharing it, you will find that others will chime in and tell you that they felt it too. Just knowing that you aren't alone can help a lot, and knowing that what you are feeling is all normal and expected can help to cut down on the feeling so badly about yourself.

So, where are you struggling the most? What are your thoughts? How are you feeling about working on your marriage?

Big hugs, honey -

Kim