Husband is getting worse and I can't talk to him - I feel so much anxiety it's killing me

Hi, I've written before in this forum. I talked to my husband about his alcohol use and my concerns and now he's mean to me every time I talk about anything. We are in a long distance marriage.... He told me he "just unwinds after his day of work with a couple beers." I told him its not good to drink every day and old him about health concerns. His mother is an alcoholic. I didn't tell my sister in law about any of the talk i had with my husband but I was talking to her about our husbands family (we are both wives of brothers). She said that her husband has tried to talk to our mother in law about her drinking and she says she's not an alcoholic and only "unwinds with a couple cocktails after a long day." So my husband is using the same excuse. He says he has no problem. Every night when I talk to him I can tell he's drunk. If I ask he yells at me but he gets confused when we talk and can't remember the conversation the next day. Then on weekend nights he drinks so much... From like 1pm til 4am. This is causing me so much worry and stress. But...He is obviously not ready to address this problem. And now he is being totally nasty toward me after I talked to him. I feel like he is finished with me. I asked him and he said he stil wants to be together. But I can't be with him if this is going to be our life. I am completely unhappy.... Any advice would help. Thank you.