Were you judgemental pre-kids?
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Were you judgemental pre-kids?
| Thu, 03-08-2012 - 10:10am |
I came across this very honest piece in the Huffington Post and couldn't help but shake my head in agreement while reading it.
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I've also learned not to sweat the small stuff. As long as Selin isn't in danger of harming herself or someone else or making a mess that will be impossible to clean up, I'm trying to be more flexible instead of always saying "no, you can't play in the sink/reorganize the snack drawer/take all the DVDs out of the entertainment center, etc. It's important to just let kids be kids. :-)
Funny...my SIL and I were just talking about this last week.
Oh definitely yes. "My kid will never scream and carry on like that!" Ha! ;)
While I didn't feed my son Wendy's at her kids' ages, he was eating it by 6 or so. And it's not like I was against it. But I was all gung-ho for homemade food prior. That went down the tube fast! Same with this little one. I was all ready to make homemade food again and bam! life got in the way. Maybe if there were 36 hours in a day...
Now I'm more of a head-nodder or a "I've got one of those at home" type moms. If someone has an unruly child, I just look at the mom/dad and just shake my head, "Dude. I know. I know."
Guilty! I am so guilty of judging pre-kids. 4 kids and a grandchild later I can tell you that there are a few words that will never leave my mouth again and they are: If that were my kid.... or my kid would never_____ (just fill in the blank)
Sheesh!
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I absolutely loved this article!!!
"Judge" is such a harsh word. I like to say that I "overestimated my parenting capabilities." :smileyvery-happy: We all have the best intentions, but it's just a fact of life that things never quite work out as planned.
I thought I'd be able to instill a sense of, say, where it's acceptable to run around a yell and have fun (park) and where it's unacceptable to do so (grocery store). I always told DH that I never acted that way as a child (it's true!) and that my kids would never do so either because I'd teach them that it's not okay. What I overestimated was my ability to teach them things like this. Some days my kids behave, but there are many more days when I bribe, yell, plead and even have to leave the store.
It's not that I don't still want all of those pre-parenthood dreams for my kids, it's just that it's impossible unless I figure out how to clone myself!
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