Any tips for keeping my sanity and NOT snooping?
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|Sat, 03-17-2012 - 11:34am|
Looking for some strength and some tips. My H and I are splitting. We are stuck in our home for hopefully a short time while we get the legal stuff taken care of. Living together is taking a very serious toll on my sanity at this point. I have no idea if he's seeing anyone or intends to but he is behaving in some ways that point to it. Of course it could be nothing and more importantly I shouldn't let it bother me as much as it does....but it kills me. I feel like I deserve a little respect and consideration after a 10 year relationship. The less I know about what's going on in his life, the more I feel like he's spending his time with someone else and I know this could all be in my head.
I'm trying to develop some mantras to repeat over and over to remind myself that I'm moving on, that I have to take care of me and my health and sanity, that he is a grown man that makes his own choices and I have nothing to do with that - nothing I do or say or feel will change that.
Any tips to help me stay the path of sanity? Also...any tips for not snooping? I don't want to stoop to that level and become a crazy wife...but I am still his wife and the thought of him lying hurts. I've been good at talking myself out of it so far. It just bothers me that I even think about it.
Thank for listening,