Did I do the wrong thing by NOT sleeping with him??
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|Mon, 03-19-2012 - 4:03am|
I’m a 37 year old italian woman. 2 weeks ago I met a guy through a mutual friend: he is 5 years younger than me, totally hot (so NOT my type!), charming, one of those guys used to having women falling in their bed. Our attraction was immediate and this never happens to me! My friend had had a 1 night stand with him and told me he wasn’t looking for anything serious and that he was full of himself.
He immediately pursued me: he befriended me on facebook, we chatted, we emailed every day, and he asked me out. He really got a hold on me, it’s been years since I liked somenone that much, I had butterflies in my stomach and I never get them! The first date was very sweet, he held my hand while we talked and didn’t make a move. On the 2nd date he invited himself over to my house, I cooked him dinner and we talked for hours before he jumped me. I was really into him, we fooled around (1 thing that left me speechless is that he was ready to go without a condom!!!), I liked him so much but I thought that he would pull a disappearing act if I had sex with him on the 2nd date so I told him he should go. He wasn’t happy but accepted my decision, hinting that he would wait 1 more time and that then he would “move over” since he was a guy (no, I don’t understand that either….). It was a torture to let him go but I didn’t want to be just a 1 night stand for him, I wanted him to stay in my life.
He emailed me the following days, asking me out again but when I asked him when we should meet he acted coy and said he was busy and that we should wait for the weekend!!! I felt he was playing me around. When he didn’t contact me for 2 days I reluctantly emailed him: he replied that he would “surprise me” during this weekend. His message: “I might surprise you tonight or tomorrow….leave the cell phone on, I’ll call you”. I was appalled by this message: how did we go from a romantic date to a booty call all of a sudden??? I was shocked at his lack of respect. Who did he think I was?? He didn’t call me (obviously): he probably spent the weekend having sex with someone else, someone who didn't fuss too much.
His behavior disgusted me but now I’m having doubts: did I do the wrong thing turning him down? I’m telling myself that he pulled a disappearing act anyway and that at least I could have enjoyed his company in bed, that my “strategy” to make him stay backfired but I know myself: I know that I would be devastated if I had had sex with him and if then he had disappeared.
I feel like an idiot cause my insecurities blocked me and I didn’t even try. Now I'm jealous of the girl is having sex with when I was so dumb to waste my only chance! :smileysad:
Was I stupid not to sleep straight away with the only guy that I’ve liked this much in ages??