Should I Have Third Child?
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Should I Have Third Child?
| Thu, 03-22-2012 - 12:52pm |
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hello!! i suffer from anxiety and panic attacks too-im bipolar and have bipolar type a which means im more prone to manic states and insomnia, etc. i am trying to concieve my 3rd child. i have 2 beautiful girls who are 8 and almost 12...a lot of people think im crazy for wanting to start all over again. but i do. i am on seroquel and will have to get off that medication if i become pregnant. but i think i can overcome that hurdle if/wheni need to. i know what triggers my anxiety-i dont have a drivers license but i do get nervous when i do drive. my trigger is my hubbys family-his brother in particular. his brother lives 2 hours away now and i have been a lot calmer since he moved. the mere mention of him and the possibilty of him coming to stay with us for even a night throws me into an anxiety attack. but thats why i have my atavan. im pretty sure you probably have meds that you can take when you get to that oh my God moment. but you also have years until you get to the point of having to take your kids to different activities and drive around a lot. plus you could try and you might not get pregnant for a year or 2-just think of all the strides you can make in driving then. if you really want another baby-i say go for it and worry about the other stuff (like driving 3 kids to activities and such)later. its great that you have a support system and that helps out too. take care!!!
JOANNE
Thank you for your reply it means alot to me!! I think that you have an amazing attitude and love that you are going for a third!!
Anna
Hi Anna,
Welcome to the board! I want you to pause for a minute and re-read your posting. Wonderful boys, loving husband, supportive family, and coming SO far…. That right there should help you find your answer!
Kids in general can be stressful even if you don’t suffer from anxiety. I think the fact that you have had two should give you a little peace of mind as to sort of what to expect. You also need to remember that even if you decide not to have a third child, your other two will be getting into hobbies and activities that will force you to leave your comfort zone. I only have one child but would like to have more in the future. As worried or scared as I am about my anxiety, I have to remember that I have a daughter and maybe one day, another daughter or son. I will not let anxiety rule my life. It is hard and there are bad days but you have to make the best of it. I think if you would like to plan on having a third child, don’t let your anxiety prevent you from doing that.
Hi Anna, what a lovely name.
Only you can decide if having another at this time is right for you or not.
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