so sick to my stomache and numb...My own Mother!!!!!

I totally agree w/ fissatore--start looking for a good job out of state, don't tell anyone in your family what your plans are (even your aunt) and just move and don't look back. Unfortunately your mother must really have problems--maybe it's jealousy or I don't know what, but you can't change her behavior and the more contact you have w/ her, the worse you are feeling.

Hi,

You know it's hard to "leave home" even if you've moved out and declared yourself an adult in your mind.

Yet actions speak louder than words.

The key here is you are 28yo and unable to accept the fact your mother will never approve of your choices. So you stay trying to win her approval and you won't leave because they would mean you "lose" and she "wins."

You could move 1,000 miles away and it won't matter until you get some help to learn how to accept the fact she is never going to approve of your choices. Trust me, if you can do this,