Weight Loss and Life Tragedies

Hey Guys! I'm here seeking some advice that I really need right now. I guess this post could also be a part of the 'Coping with Loss' board but since I am really struggling with loosing weight, I decided that this board probably would be a better choice. I am really struggling to loose weight... Like really struggling, and have been for a little while now. You see what happened is that years ago, I lost over 100 pounds and went from a size 24 to a size 8. I did it all on my own and it was easier then of course. Less responsibility and faster metabolism. Fast forward ahead to 2009... I suffered 2 life altering tragedy's at the exact same time and I have been trying to deal with it since then. Once I began having thoughts of suicide, I knew that I needed to seek professional help. My toddler son at the time needed his mommy and I knew that I could not leave him. So I decided to start seeing a therapist over a year ago. She has helped me tremendously in many ways. But struggling with my weight is one big problem that I want so badly to fix. I spoke with my therapist regarding this and without getting into too much private information, she pretty much pointed out the fact that I am an emotional eater and because what I experienced in 2009, I eat to help to cope with the pain and emotional damage. It also doesn't help that I still am dealing with the situation here and there at this present time. It upsets me a lot that I was able to loose all that weight on my own back then. And my therapist is right that I am an emotional eater and I am eating to help me to deal with the pain I am going through. But, she also suggested that since I have only recently began to tackle the pain and hurt of the past, I am not going to be able to also focus on loosing weight also because it's a lot for me to work through at one time. But at the same time, I am miserable not loosing weight. I do good one minute but then when I start to go through the emotions, I let go and overeat. I have recently began dating this great guy who also lost a ton of weight a few years ago before we met and he inspires me. But at the same time, I feel like such a failure and a slob around him because he is so into working out and I do work out when I can and don't have my son with me but then when I get depressed, I undo all that work and over eat. He also complains that he is not where he wants to be weight wise and hi he wants to loose a few more pounds but I'm not sure if that's inspiring me or making me feel worse because I feel the same way about myself. Anyway, please anyone, I am desperate to loose weight again. I want help and I know that I'm too messed up to focus on loosing weight right now rather than my mental health but I still would like to know if there's still anything I can do instead of just waiting until I'm mentally and emotionally healthy again before I can start on the path to weight loss again. Thank you soo much