I'm sorry I didn't see your post from yesterday.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
I was the drunk in my relationship. My SO was verbally and emotionally abusive. He didn't even drink. He belittled, and cut me down. Then he would honestly make it seem like I was imagining things. I was so tied to him that I went back to him after he married and divorced. I shudder now thinking of it.
Anyway, when he found out I was getting sober he got really angry. He badgered me into trying to believe that I didn't have a drinking problem. When I got into therapy for anger issues, he demanded that I tell him everything I had told the therapist-which I refused to do- and then told me to stop therapy and stop AA.
Fortunately, I did neither. Okay, I stopped therapy a few months later, but by then he was history. I had to sober up to figure out I was worth more.
That was many, many year ago. The relationship I have now is healthy and strong- and oh so different.