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Need some advice please
| Sun, 04-01-2012 - 9:18pm |
Recently my husband told me about his sexual fantasy.
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This seems to be a pretty common fantasy among
Well I don't like the "if I say no he will be very upset and disappointed". It sounds like he's trying to manipulate you into agreeing to this, even if it goes against everything you believe to be right. Basically, he doesn't seem to care about what you want (or don't want in this case) but just wants to satisfy his selfish wants. You need to stand up to him and tell him how wrong it is for him to try to talk you into doing something you don't want to do. I don't know, if my H said that to me I'd probably pack his bags and tell him to go find another woman that's into that kind of lifestyle cause it ain't gonna happen in my bed, although my H would know better than to even suggest such a thing, And when I first read your post (even before I read musics reply) I had the same thought as her, which was I wonder how he'd react if you would suggest a threesome with another man? I would also be comcerned that if you don't agree with him on this and he keeps bringing this up, that his sexual desires are eventually going to lead him to carry out his fantasies elsewhere. Now I'm not saying you should give in to him (because you absolutely should not be talked into doing something you don't want to do) but I just don't trust the way he's talking about this to you.
That's a common fantasy among men.
Thank you, DH did say "well there is the other kind of threesome too, we could maybe try that too".
~ cl-2nd_lifecl-2nd_
Hi,
My first question is this: Is your husband using porn? If so, it wouldn't surprise me he's asking you to do things in bed that you find abhorent. He's watching them all the time. Now they're "normal" activities to him, even though he may not have done them himself.
I agree with all of the comments people made before me. You do not want to do this & I agree a marriage should be just between the 2 people. I have heard of 2 people agreeing to do this but most of the time it causes more problems.I have seen shows where the couples