Dealing with the break-up even when it's right to break up
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Dealing with the break-up even when it's right to break up
| Mon, 04-02-2012 - 5:41pm |
Today my boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me. I was my first attempt at a relationship after my last boyfriend died in 2005. I am already on anti-depressants, and at the age of 33 I feel utterly hopeless, inferior and unworthy. I know it was right to break up, but I will feel like a failure and can feel my depressive spiral beginning. Help! :(
I also wanted to add that I am new here and am grateful to find a place offering support without judgement. I wish everyone else on here well. X
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I am sorry that you are hurting and am sending you a huge cyber hug.
Thank you. I really appreciate your support.
Well, I can tell from your writing that you are not dull or stupid.
Thank you for being so nice. I guess a lot of comes from assuming everyone else is more worthwhile or better than me. And you're right about not isolating myself. I will try and do that.
On a side note, I work in a University in the UK and am always shocked by the general writing and communications skills of our students, too.
Welcomie to the board!
Hi Sunset, Thank you for the support. I am very fortunate to have some lovely supportive friends around me. I guess my real problem is the depression I already suffer with, and the fact that I already torturing myself over all the things that are wrong with me.
This was my first attempt at a relationship since my boyfriend died in 2005 from epilepsy, and it took a lot out of me emotionally to even give it a try at all. Now I can't stop reeling off all the things that make me unloveable and unwanted by anyone. It's all consuming. I wish I could see this as just a normal, upsetting still, but normal break-up, but it's just a reminding me of being alone, and how much I don't feel part of the 'normal world' I assume everyone else inhabits.
The writing skills of our freshmen are horrible.