Help to a new full-time stepmom with no bio kids!
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|Mon, 07-09-2012 - 1:51pm|
I'm new to the message board, but honestly am just not sure where to turn as I feel pretty alone in my situation and decision. And sorry, I don't know all the abbreviations such as SM and BF yet!
I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year and he has an adorable 7 year old that he is the primary parent of. We have him 4-7 nights a week depending upon the bio-mom's mood. She and my BF were never really together and she abandoned her child at about 6 months. She can be a very angrey and manipulative woman that my BF's extended family has tip-toed around for years. Now, due to poor decisions, she and her new partner are moving to my BF's sister's property. The poor choices and lifestyle deicisons she make are mind-blowing to me as I'm a rather stand-up gal.
In the end my partner, his son, and I are creating a beautiful family unit. The kiddo adores me, as I do him. Having no children of myself, I can't believe I'm in this role but LOVE the life we are setting up. However, I had no idea this is the life I woudl have. And that long term, the bio-mom isn't going to go away, and will continue to be (what I call) a "street angel, house devil". I guess my question is how do you find the strength to keep your family together, and realize that she will often make our lives hell, we will pick up the pieces of her poor deicions, and as the SM I'll be the last to know?