Last date--one year ago

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Last date--one year ago
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Wed, 09-05-2012 - 8:11pm

Now I'm not pathetically keeping track in my calendar or anything.  The reason I know is that last year we went to something called "Fashion's NIght Out" and I'm seeing ads that it's tomorrow night.  This event started in NYC as a special kind of event where a lot of stores had shopping events & celebs would go & stuff like that.  Last year Boston had one too--it was actually a fun thing to do.  First we went out for dinner, then we walked over to this street where all the best designer stores are.  They had the whole street closed off to traffic, a car dealer had set up all these expensive cars to show in the street, there was live music & stuff like that.  I do remember that even though we did talk pretty freely during dinner, it was still a little effort--not very relaxed like with friends.  This was our 3rd date--but it had been quite a few months since the 2nd one.  We had met on line, went out and then he never called, then he located me again on line & asked me out again--I shouldn't have given him the 2nd chance.  Well we had met up downtown, I was parked nearby so I offered to give him a ride to his car--I expected him to at least kiss me good night, but he didn't.  He had told me that the next week he was having minor surgery so then I called him the night before to wish him good luck with that.  He kept saying how nice that was and that he would call me after he felt better--but never did.  Also, I told him he had left his umbrella in my car.  I guess he really didn't want to see me since he didn't even come to get his umbrella.

I am not really missing this guy.  He was nice enough, had a good paying job, owned his own home and seemed like a good person, family oriented.  Yet he was over 50, never been married because he was "scared."  That didn't phase me that much since I'm not really looking to get married again--but maybe it would also mean that he didn't really know how to conduct a relationship.  I found him a little boring and he was definitely not as smart as me--I don't like it when I have to worry about not to appear too smart so as not to make the guy feel bad.  I really do want someone with  a college education or if they don't have one, someone who is well read, up on current events, or at least seems more intelligent.

So in that time, I have pretty much given up on OLD--oh yeah, I do check on the free sites once in a while, but I can't really convince myself to contact anyone first.  They just kind of seem "blah" to me, although in person I'm sure I could find someone nice enough.  I started going out w/ a single parents meetup group--I've only been to 3 events but each time I've had a lot of fun, although no male prospects as far as dates there yet.  I've gone dancing a lot more--met some women through my dance school who like to go out & try new places so I'd say my weekend social life has improved.

So I guess it's been some good & some bad.  I really hope I don't have to wait another year for the next date!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 10-06-2012 - 9:59am

haha. I went to a few of those that were on POF.. guess what? We were given name tags with our user name on it from the site. It was okay but truly humiliating..

I did do a miniature golf one and it wasnt as bad.. The leader didnt give out name tags this time and people just mingled.. It was very inexpensive also.. I dont like the ones in bars or dances.. Bad enough you just sit around and wait for someone to ask you to dance..

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-06-2012 - 12:09pm

I just figure that it it's not geared to one age group it could be a bunch of 20-30 yrs olds and I could be the only middle aged person there.  I wouldn't like it if you had to have your user name on there--why not have your first name & then you can just meet like normal people?  If you liked someone you could just give him your phone no--you wouldn't have to go through the site anyway--cause you've alreayd met.  Duh!  Isn't the point of OLD to meet in real life?  I think it would be better to go to just a singles event or meetup group.

Oh one time I did go to this meetup event that my single parents group has--we went to a bar that had a live band & were just dancing & having fun.  So then I was on line and recognized this guy who had been at the event.  I was not trying to get a date from him--I emailed him and just said Hi I didn't know you were a lawyer too (I hadn't talked to him too much that night)--he never answered me.  I thought that was really rude because I really don't want to date him--I haven't seen him since but now I know he's stuck up.

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