Non payment of braces and medical bills
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|Mon, 09-24-2012 - 5:48pm|
I am at the end of my rope. I am hoping anyone here has had some experience/advice with my dilemma. Ex and I have been divorced since 2002. The decree states that each parent shall be responsible for half of all unreimbursed medical, dental and orthodontia. Every quarter I have to mail him receipts from medical and dental for both our kids. Let me interject here that our oldest daughter has a medical condition and requires 4 medictations a month plus very frequent doctor visits. She also has braces and has had to have oral surgery for permanent teeth to be removed underneath the gumline that did not erupt. Not to mention the occasional strep, ear infection, etc. It has been like pulling teeth to try and get him to pay at all and to try and get him to pay on time. He lies, he blows it off, he makes excuses. This has been going on for years and years. I started off sending him the bills return receipt. He stopped picking it up at the post office and said to mail it to him directly. When I would give him reminders he would say stop complaining I will pay you when I pay you. He is supposed to pay within 60 days of receipt. Usually it's months and more often none at all. He has told me to not send him reminders, he knows when to pay. So far I have had to file court paperwork twice to reinforce a court order for unreimbursed medical. The first time he owed me over $500. Within two weeks of the court conference he sent two money orders and I cancelled the court date. The second time, last year, he owed over $800, plus had to pay all my court fees- about $300, plus he was told he had to start making his half of payments for our daughter's braces. We had finished paying our half, he still owes $1,000. He made two payments on that after the court hearing then stopped paying AGAIN. He now is 6 months behind on the medical again and the ortho is telling us they will stop her final treatment unless the ortho is paid.
I am out of my mind upset. He KNOWS it is his responsibility to pay half of the medical, dental and ortho. He was reprimanded by the court that he has not been following the court order and that he is responsible. The conference officer also told him that he has made life very difficult and stressful for me by playing theses games. Yet here we are again. I asked if they would garnish wages and they said no. I don't see why not. I called his employer and they said yes they garnish wages if they have a court order. If it weren't for the fact that I would lose child support I would push to have him arrested. At this time I don't have $1,000 to come up with the money for my daughter. I am paying off my outpatient hospital bills from kidney stone removal earlier in the year to the tune of $4,000. I don't know what to do. I could just keep filing paperwork and doing it myself and hope the court gets more strict. I can't hire a lawyer but I am going to try to get free legal advice. Maybe there is something I am missing.
Not to mention the fact that in the past two years he has had the kids about 5 times. That's it. He never calls, never emails, doesn't keep in touch. Says he's always working and can't see them or it's too far a drive and too much gas (he moved two hours away) even though my husband has driven two and a half hours one way every other weekend to get his kids come rain or shine because he CARES. Ugh! I have seven more years to deal with this man and once my kids are adults I don't ever want to deal with him again. He's made my life too difficult.