How to deal with M counseling?
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|Mon, 09-24-2012 - 8:21pm|
So, my H has decided we ought to see a marriage counselor. This came up a few weeks ago after weeks of a cold war in our house.
Typically we're both very easy going people and although I've told him many times I'm unhappy, we're both kind to each other and rarely fight.
Over the summer we started picking at each other more often and had sex a lot less, and after seeing how depressed I was getting - he suggested therapy.
We're supposed to start in the next week or so and I'm not quite sure how to handle it. Clearly I am not going to confess cheating, and yet, this may be an opportunity to at least share some of what I see as being wrong in our relationship. I don't want to hurt him though, so complete honesty isn't an option.
I guess it's terrible to know that this won't work since I'm not giving it my all, but I feel like I owe it to him to participate and I hope he gets something out of it.
I was texting with AP this morning and he surprised me (and hurt me) when he said I should give therapy a real shot. I was like, really?! Then he backpeddled explaining he wanted to be ready in case I changed my mind at some point about him, like, say after going through M counseling. I have the same insecurities about him changing his mind about me - obviously this is a situation where there are no guarantees and at times it's crazy making.
So, have any of you had to go to M counseling while having an active A? What was that like?