Seeing him in a different (ugly) light
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|Tue, 09-25-2012 - 3:32pm|
I just found out last month but I have known that something wasn't right nearly since it started a year ago. I have known my DH for 20 years and married for 13. I never thought that he was capable of such a thing. He has always been the sweetest most wonderful and caring man in the past. I just don't understand how he could do this to me. He has cut off all contact with the AP and has done everything possible to show me he regrets what he did and wants to make it work with me. We have always had an extremely strong relationship in the past and this occurred only when we had a few very big life stressors and we stopped communicating like we should. We were angry at each other and she came in at a vunerable time in our marriage. I want to make it work. We are talking all the time now, going on dates again and seeing a therapist. However, part of me just can't get over that he is not the man I thought he was. I am deeply heartsick over his lack of morals. If he was that unhappy during our stressful period, why couldn't he just ask me for a divorce rather than cheat on me. We could have talked out our problems and consulted a therapist then instead of turning to someone else. He says he never wanted to lose me and that it just happened (the AP was a friend of his who wanted more and he responded). He regrets it all but I'm having trouble moving on. How do you get past seeing that your husband was not who you thought he was?