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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 8:54pm

I found this while looking through the archives.  Why there is no a nutshell.

Iddy wrote this:


"There is NO closure when an A ends between the two APs because it was never a realrelationship to begin with. What we all had was an underground liaison based on deceit, lies, and the exchange of forbidden feel goods. Trying to get closure on such secretive behavior is rather foolish, don't you think? Real closure comes from within, when we have examined our despicable behavior in depth, understand the inner complexities of this dysfunctional behavior, hold ourselves accountable for what we've done, and then forgiving ourselves and XAP for being so weak and foolish. This will take time and distance before the answers are forthcoming."



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Registered: 05-08-2012
In reply to: withclarity
Wed, 09-26-2012 - 5:54am

Thanks for reposting this Clarity. I for one needed reminding!

It's Introspection and old Father Time, every time! A heady but healing combination......

Sunny Soon Xxx