Helping with behavior issues
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|Wed, 09-26-2012 - 5:10pm|
How do you help your student "conform and follow the rules" without squelching their enthusiasm for school? I am struggling to help my 5 year old, who is having a really hard time transitioning to kindergarten. She was in a daycare that did pre-k, so academically she is just fine, probably ahead of a portion of her class. She has always been a bit of a handful growing up, from colic at 6 weeks, to getting into any and everything at her in-home daycare at 2, but the last two years she has definitely flourished and gotten better, but she still has her challenges. So I guess I didn't realize how big of a change it would be for her entering kindergarten, she's been doing worksheets, and projects and all that stuff for a while now. But the first week she came home every day complaining she didn't like the new school, she had no friends, she wanted to go back to her old school. The end of the first week she got into trouble for being excessively loud in the classroom and in the hallway, and constantly interrupting the teacher, which is something we have been working on at home constantly. Second and third week, it was taking stuff off the teacher's desk, not listening to directions, this week, its hiding under the table when visitors were in the room, playing and trying to scare people in the bathroom (which is a game her and her dad play at home, and we've explained is not appropriate at school), just lots of stuff. Yesterday was a particularly bad day for her in the morning, I got an email from the teacher at lunch about it. Then I got one at the end of the day saying she had a fantastic afternoon, it was light night and day. DH came home last night so that I could spend some one on one time with her, she's the middle child and when DH is gone a lot (which is a lot) she tends to misbehave more. We spent some good quality time together last night, talked, painted our nails together, hoping that would help a bit if she was just trying to get some attention. But today I got another email from the teacher that said :
I'm sorry I keep having to be the bearer of bad news (. I'd love to tell you she had a great day, but it was another hard day. She was really testing the limits today. If I revisited a rule with the whole class, she would immediately do the opposite and do whimper noises when I gave her warnings.
BUT it was a hard day for almost everyone, not just Emma. I don't know if it's the weather the changing of the seasons or what, but they have all been a little wild this week.
and then she explained her new reward system for the whole class. I just don't know what to do. We have tried positive reinforcement at home, and I will try a new technique starting tonight. Negative reinforcement has NEVER worked on her at all. I am just at a lose on how to help her, obviously I know she needs to conform to certain things, but I don't want to completely squash her spirit also. Her teacher has been great about trying to work with me to figure out ideas to help her in the classroom, but I am just plain out of ideas at this point.