Long Distance BF Has ‘Other Plans’ On His One Night Off??? WTF??
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|Thu, 09-27-2012 - 10:53am|
Been talking to/seeing a really nice guy for the last few months. He contacts me throughout the day every day. We’ve both said we’re looking for a real relationship and not just some kind of friendship or even FWB, so we're taking it slow. Seeing each other has been difficult, though, because we live an hour apart and have hectic schedules (plus he has a second job on weekends). So we’ve basically only seen each other once or twice a month.
What I’m asking is:
A) How much of an obstacle should an hour’s distance present? (I mean, I’ll drive an hour for a ten-minute appointment, but maybe it’s a REALLY big deal for him?)
B) Why, after saying it’d be worth it to try, that if we really want to we’ll find a way, etc., is he having such a lack of imagination? (Every date doesn’t have to be a whole night or weekend; what’s wrong with a movie on a Sunday afternoon or a burger on a Thursday night?)
C) If he wants to see me/be with me so bad, why did he say he had “tentative” plans (which obviously didn’t include me) for the one night he had off in several weeks?
D) If it seems like he’s ditching me, why does he keep contacting me, being caring and saying he wants to be with me and make it work, etc???
E) Am I expecting too much/the wrong thing/the wrong way? Why am I so upset about the “tentative plan” thing?
Disclaimer: I limited myself to telling him how sad I was to think we wouldn’t be able to see each other for a month, didn’t ask where he was going or what he was doing (even though he usually always tells me what’s going on), and have tried to keep the conversation light and enjoyable. But, I am really kind of upset…I don’t want to start getting angry about things I may be misinterpreting. Everyone tells me he really likes me, and I think we could make a good try at something nice, but something about this sticks in my craw and if we can’t resolve it, I don’t know if I can get past it. HELP!!