pregnant at 44

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Registered: 04-06-2011
pregnant at 44
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Thu, 09-27-2012 - 8:28pm
yikes!!! I'm terrified!! I just found out I'm pregnant and I just turned 44. I'm separated from my husband; have been for 2 1/2 years. I've been seeing another man for over a year now who is 8 years my JUNIOR and it is his baby. He is beyond thrilled over this. Me, not so much. I'm 44 for christ's sake.... I have 2 grown daughters ages 23 and 21. Had my tubes clipped over 10 years ago. Never dreamed I'd get pregnant. (apparently one clip had 'slipped off' - the proverbial broken condom.)
Nonetheless, I just am in shock here. I may not be on the right board here, but I was wondering if anyone else in the world is in a similar predicament such as mine? Or, am I the ONLY one??
I've scared myself silly with all the websites bemoaning the horrors of pregnancy in older women. Can anyone relate?
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Registered: 06-03-2008
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 9:33pm
I'm not in a similar predicament but there is a Pregnant over 40 board. I've been banned from Googling things :smileywink: I hope you continue to stay here, too, though!
Lilypie Trying to Conceive 15 to 80 day cycle tickers
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Registered: 02-05-2004
Sat, 09-29-2012 - 2:24am

You have me beat by 3 years.  My kids were 20 and 21 when I figured out that i wasn't carsick and hadn't picked something up wrong to make my BBS hurt!  POAS is a great 41st birthday activity! 

Congratulations!  I have to say I have enjoyed being a mother in my dotage (48) way more than I expected. 

Only advise I will give is that when they give you the statistics on complications, remember they are talking about 44 year old women, not all pregnancies.  My son (the economist) pointed out to me that 1:50 requires we find 49 other pregnant 41 year olds.  There's not that many out there.  You'd be good!

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Sat, 09-29-2012 - 2:24am

No googling and WEB MD shold require a doctor's ok.

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Sat, 09-29-2012 - 9:24pm

Both of my grandmothers and an aunt on either side had their last babies at 41--and I followed suit.  All 5 babes in question turned out wonderful (although in my 6 year old's case, she'll be doing better if she'd just learn to clean her room!)

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Fri, 10-05-2012 - 11:56am

hi, I am also 44 & pg.....yes, there's a pregnant over 40 board on here, full of great women & advice!  :heart:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend