kiss on a second date?

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Registered: 01-24-2011
kiss on a second date?
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Mon, 10-01-2012 - 8:49am

I met a guy on Saturday for coffee.

He was telling me that he expects something on a second, at least some kissing.

By third date, he expects sex. According to him if by third date,  the girl does not give herself to the guy, the guy can go back online to find many who is willing.

I told him, I don't like to be rushed and rather know him as a friend first before jumping into a relationship.

After the meet, I never got another text from him again. Before the meet, he was constantly sending me, how are you texts. 

Just wanted to share this.

 

 

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 9:14am

What a douche.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 12:30pm

Most guys, even if they think like that, aren't stupid enough to actually say it out loud.  It just makes him sound like a player and someone who is only into sex--who would want to go out with him after that?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 1:45pm
Ewww! Keep it movin' girlie - you deserve much MUCH better!
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 2:44pm

He is honest.  A little too honest for his own good but a straight talker.  Many males get frustrated with female players who "promise" but never deliver.  After several of those experiences a normal guy becomes a bit bitter.  So would a woman who was "teased" in the same way.

With this guy you have a clear choice.

chaika

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 7:46pm

He says he wants a relationship  and that he has been single for a year. He tells me how he hates being single.

He is alone in the country prob why he feels very lonely.

It seems like he does not want to waste time to get to know a person. He wants an instant relationship.

You are spot on. He was very blunt.

He even invited me to go and see his condo. I declined and he asks why I am a good guy.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 7:57pm
How did something like that even come up?

I have no problem with a kiss on a second date, and I won't pretend I haven't had sex way too soon. It's annoying when a guy expects it, though. Like they don't want to put forth any work. It's just lazy.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 9:54pm

Yes, I might want to have sex on the 3rd date (Have done it) but I would like to think I had a say in it and that the guy wouldn't dump me if I didn't have sex exactly on his time line.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 10:40pm

Wow.  His very straight forward alright.  I wonder if he tells every woman this when he takes her out.  Perhaps that is why he is has been single for a year now?  Granted there is nothing wrong with kissing on a second date, but I get the impression he wants an instant relationship strictly on his terms.  I'd rather have a say-so in a relationship.  So I wonder what he expects on a fourth date?  Marriage?  I would not be going out w/him again.  Sheesh!

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Registered: 09-30-2012
Tue, 10-02-2012 - 12:43am

Seems that he is very impatient and thinking of himself. Those truely looking for a relationship let things play out naturally. Next time, print out an ad for an escort service and carry it with you. Next time a man tries to rush you just give him that ad and tell him that you think this is a more suitable, convenient and faster solution to what he is looking for.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Tue, 10-02-2012 - 8:24am
LOL...caring an ad for an escort service!!
Good idea.

Once I was chatting to a guy for the first time on MSN and he starts talking dirty. I told him to call this number 1800 WHORE and he went offline right away.

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