Never had orgasm without rubbing,how can i have without it

It's perfectly normal to need rubbing to orgasm. Yes, some women can orgasm with out it, but that has more to do with anatomy. I read recently, but I don't remeber where, that there was a research study on this and the ability to orgasm without direct stimulation of the clitoris has to do with the distance between the vaginal opening and the clitoris. That distance varies as much in women as the size of men's penises. It also has to do with the size of the clitoris and how thick the covering is. The larger the clit and thinner the covering is, the easier it is for a woman to orgasm with only intercourse. The women who orgasm with just intercourse have the clitoris positioned just right to get stimulation during intercourse. I can orgasm without DH ever putting his hands down there, but my clitoris is rubbed during intercourse by the area above his penis. Our anatomy is just right for there to be contact there. If your anatomy isn't positioned just right for your clit to make contact with his body, you will always need to rub it. That's not something you can change. Also, if you're breastfeeding still, that can inhibit your ability to orgasm. While a woman is breastfeeding, the brain is releasing a hormone called prolactin, which lowers the hormone estrogen. Estrogen is important for sex drive and the ability to orgasm. A symptom of high prolactin levels is low sex drive. A woman's body body will become more responsive after she quits breastfeeding. This hormone prolactin is also why most breastfeeding moms don't have periods. I don't know about not orgasming during oral, except that not everyone likes it, and again, your anatomy may be that your clitoris isn't sensitive enough for just oral. You may need firmer rubbing on your clitoris then a tongue can apply. However, there's an emotional component to it too. If you don't feel completely relaxed or comfortable with oral, it will be more difficult. Many women still have that subconscious belief that sex is naughty and especially oral. OR if you're too focused on trying to orgasm, that in itself can make it difficult because it puts pressure and stress on you which can also make it difficult. Your hubby's putting pressure on you and especially getting argumentive about it is only going to make it more difficult for you. Neither of you should put so much importance on when and how you orgasm. What's important is that you enjoy it and if you can orgasm with rubbing, then that's great! You both should stop worrying about it, especially your hubby.