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|Wed, 10-03-2012 - 12:16pm|
I am new here, looking for somewhere to discuss all things wedding. I have been engaged for 3 months now, and our wedding date is June 1 2013.
However, I have a dilemma. My fiancee's sister was married 18 months ago, and at that time, we postponed our engagement as to not ruin her special time. He had already purchased the ring,and it was to be my birthday gift....and I had to wait over a year to get it (i did get some perfume for that birthday as well!!). Just a little background. Now, as we are exactly 8 months from our wedding, and one week from our engagement party, she announces her pregnancy. Normally, this would be exciting news for all. However, she made the comment to a close friend within weeks of our engagement that she would "be 9 months pregnant or have a newborn at their wedding". So, this was planned to coincide with our wedding. We are having a "destination" wedding, it's not terribly far from home, but most guests are staying the weekend in a hotel. Ok, that being said, her due date is exactly 11 days prior to our wedding. So, either she will be VERY pregnant (and there have been suggestions that we move the venue closer to home, and the hospital here), or she will have a week old newborn at my wedding. This is also the first child of our generation, and sure to be the center of everyone's attention.
That being said, and also noted, this was PLANNED to coincide with our wedding, she began to send daily texts updating me on the development of her child. At the end of my rope, I wrote her back, and asked her to please consider my feelings, and to remember that I am planning my wedding, and right now, that's the most exciting and happy thing in MY life. She then told me that it's her first child, and if I want to be that way, fine. Then, she complained to my fiancee, and her parents. This has clearly caused some tension between us, but once again, nobody has considered my feelings...and I am unsure of how to handle it from this point. It's also worth mentioning that she doesn't "approve" of our relationship (we don't meet her religous standards), and she has told us, on more than one occasion how wrong we are, and that we are going to hell. I, at this point, am ready to cut my losses, and let her know that if she is unsupportive of our relationship, plus wants everything to be about her, then she can just not attend wedding festivities, while letting her know that she's more than welcome at all times, as long as she can attend and be happy for us.
Sorry for the long crazy post, I'm feeling VERY frustrated!