Bipolar or just her?
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|Wed, 10-03-2012 - 10:18pm|
I hope I don't offend anyone because I do understand that being bipolar can be very hard for an individual to have to go through. However, I was just wondering if there is any way to tell if a person with bipolar is actually acting up due to the bipolar itself or just throwing a fit when they can't get their own way and then blaming it on being bipolar.
I'm asking because a friend of mine has a girlfriend who is bipolar. We go on double dates to concerts, museum, movies, dinner, etc. So, my guy and I tend to hang out with my friend and his girlfriend somewhat frequently. Well it seems to me that if everything doesn't go her way she gets really upset. For example we all went to a restaurant for breakfast and she got upset because they didn't have what she wanted on the menu. Instead of just picking something different she demanded that he take her home. Another times she decided that she didn't want to see a certain exhibit at a museum we all visited and threw a fit about not wanting to be there any more until my friend took her home. I know she has some phobias and certain exhibits might make her upset. For instance she is scared of birds, but whenever something doesn't go her way she wants out.
We have all been very patient with her, but she is a handful at times. What gets to me is she has a child who is in kindergarten and though she demands everyone be patient with her when she is deciding on what to eat, drink, etc. She will scream at her child until he is in tears if he takes to long to decide on anything. Also, since she is scared of birds she has mad threats, jokingly, about poisoning my friends pet bird Pete. I know she said it jokingly, but I do believe she would be thrilled if the bird where to just die one day since she is to adamant about hating birds. Beyond that my friend complains to me on the phone when we talk about how he wished he could have conversations with her, but she always turns him off. Unless it is something she is interested in she doesn't want to hear it from him. He also told me that he is frustrated with the fact that she withholds sex or uses it to manipulate. For instance I have heard her tell him before if he didn't do something she wouldn't have sex with him. However she isn't anyway.
I know my friend is a grown man and capable of making his own decisions, but is any of this typical? I really don't want to offended anyone, but is she just a brat or does this sound like part of her condition? My friend is going to stay with her and try to work through everything so she will be a part of mine and my husbands life as long as their together. We just want to know if we should just continue being patient or perhaps hang out with them less since she always seems to act up.