Family history, struggled to get pregnant...

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Family history, struggled to get pregnant...
Thu, 10-04-2012 - 12:23pm

I will be 30 years old in January. I am not married or looking to have kids within the next two years. Maybe three. I'm not on birth control (no reason to be) although I have used it off and on when I have needed to. 

My mom tried for five years to get pregnant with me, from age 19-24. She had me, then got pregnant with my sister right away. My sister tried for five years to get pregnant, from age 22-27. She had my nephew, then got pregnant with my niece right away. Both were not ovulating and I think both were a little too skinny to get pregnant. Both ended up getting pregnant naturally without Clomid or any other type of medication or IVF.

I'm worried about me. I realize that as I get older, my chances of conceiving start to decline. I'm in good health and not too skinny. I'm bigger than both of them were at the ages they were trying to get pregnant. I have very regular periods and am not using birth control. Is there any way to check if I do in fact ovulate? Is there a way to test my fertility without going to a specialist? I just want to be prepared when the time comes.

Thank you  for any help or suggestions. I really appreciate it :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 12-13-2006
Thu, 10-11-2012 - 11:58pm
I was worried too just like you
It took my mom 7 years, 25-32 and she finally had only me. Her sister always wanted children but it never happened for her. They were both far healthier than me - an overweight stressed out female who drinks too when 37 came around the corner I was pretty sure I had missed my baby window. I joined fertility friend and took some temperatures and got pregnant the second try. Don't worry. I don't think heredity is much of a factor.....just relax and enjoy and for god's sake don't rush things with the wrong partner! I almost did that and I look back with tremendous relief that I waited for the right guy!
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Registered: 01-06-2000
Fri, 10-05-2012 - 4:28pm

I'd recommend that you learn a bit about charting your fertility and chart a few cycles.  3 or 4 should be enough to give you an accurate picture.  There's a great book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, that explains everything you ever want to know about your body and cycles, as well as how to chart them.  If you're not so much a book reader, Fertility Friend has an online "charting university" that is a series of free lessons on charting.  It's not as comprehensive as the book, but it'll walk you through the basics.  They also have good charting software and apps.

Your chart should show a definite pattern that would indicate whether you're ovulating or not.  

As for your family history, there are a number of things that can interfere with fertility, including low progesterone, thyroid imbalances, an endocrine disorder called PCOS, and many other things.  Plus, as you indicated already, being underweight can cause problems, especially if accompanied by an eating disorder (which you didn't mention, but I'm throwing it out there for anyone else who might read the thread).

Getting to know your body and your cycles now is a good idea, for the time when you do decide it's the right time for you.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 10-04-2012 - 4:11pm
There is an over the counter test that you could take to get an idea on your fertility, although it's just one piece of the puzzle:

There have been mixed responses on these forums regarding the tests, so take the results with a grain of salt.

You could also ask your ob/gyn to run some simple tests to get an idea on what you could be facing. They should be able to run some standard ones without you having to go to a specialist.