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| Thu, 10-04-2012 - 1:34pm |
Hello all..
I am considering a relationship with a guy who is 19 yrs older than me. I am 42 and he is 61. Not a big deal to me at all except that my guy has had multiple heart attacks and is on medication that not only makes it almost impossible to get an erection, but he also cannot take viagra or anything like that. We have been close friends for 10 yrs and I do love him but I am afraid I will cheat on him because I love sex. It seems like he can give me everything I want in love and not the passionate sex that I also need. I get approached by guys in their 20's all the time because I do not look my age, and I find myself wanting to take them up on it. I didn't know my guy had this problem when we started seeing each other and I felt selfish at first, but sex is a major part of a relationship at any age and I just don't know what to do. I have not committed to being his girlfriend yet and I don't want to hurt him. We are, in every other way, compatible. Help.
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My current DF (43 now) early on in the relationship suffered from ED. This was due to his blood pressure medications and lack of exercise. We agreed to try to overhaul his lifestyle with regards to diet and exercise and so far his BP is under control and he is now able to get and maintain normal erections.
I am not sure if your guy can do much about his dependency on the heart medications. I will suggest you do not commit to a relationship with him at this moment. If both of you can have an honest and open talk perhaps the both of you could discuss with a doctor if anything can be done to reverse the effects of ED caused by his meds.
Good luck!
I'm sure between the both of you if you're committed you can make it work
Am I nuts but talk to the guy about this and maybe he wont mind you have a lover?
I have 2 friends, the woman cannot have sex, it wont happened and that means no kids, but her husband adores her and she adores him they are the greatest couple we know. They been together for 20 years now and the problem as been there for 19 years and I asked them how they get it to work and they answered, he has a lover, he get the sex he needs from that person but the love and passion from his wife and she doesnt have any pressure or worries in bed.
They have had same lover for 14 years now and it works great for them.
Wow! Thank you for all of your responses! I don't know how I would feel about that last one, to be honest. Call me old fashioned lol but I feel like I am a one man woman. I guess I have some things to think about.
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