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|Fri, 10-05-2012 - 12:38am|
Hi, I new here. I recently posted on the wedding planning board but someone suggested I move the topic here. I am typing this on my phone so I won't go into as much depth. Long story short, my future sister in law has planned her pregnancy as much as possible, with her due date approximately one week before my wedding. She mentioned more than once that she WOULD be pregnant at our wedding. She STRONGLY dislikes both her brother and myself, because we live together and aren't married. She's had several discussions with him saying so. Before she became part of the cult she considers a church, we were VERY close. I loved her dearly. My fiancée and I postponed our engagement as not to take away from their whirlwind wedding...now, we are planning our dream wedding and she plans to have the first child in this generation at the same time. Normally, this would upset me, but no harm done. However, she called the family together 5 days before our engagement party to announce her pregnancy. She is only 6 weeks, so she definitely could have waited. But she hates not being the center of attention. We asked to to consider our feelings and not make the party about her, and he said that she would definitely talk about her first child because she's happy. I told her that's wonderful but for 2 hours, let it rest. She said f she had to not mention the baby then she would not come to the party, and I hurt her feelings by asking her to not mention it. She also mentioned that she wouldn't ask us to not talk about the wedding....hello, it's an engagement party. I do not discuss anything wedding with her, that's what I have my family and friends for. She also like to send daily fetus updates, as if I am really concerned about it. Honestly, we aren't friends anymore and never will be, because I cannot live up to her standards. This breaks my heart, but I have learned to live with it. The whole situation has spun way out of control, and I'm to the point where I'm seriously reconsidering marrying into this family. I love my fiancée more than anything, but I do not know how much I can put up with. I think dating was better, maybe because they thought of me as tempoearythen, even after six years. Any advice is appreciated!!!!