My neice is pregnant
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My neice is pregnant
| Sun, 10-07-2012 - 11:11am |
So this should probably go in the insensitive post but its awkward for both me and my neice. I'm 36 and never had children. I've been actively trying since March and its been emotionally difficult. My neice is 20 and is a good kid. Don't drink but does smoke but don't do drugs. She and her fiance of two years haven't worked until my neice recently started working. They are staying with my sister who is her aunt. Well while my neice was working her fiance was talking to women online. They break up and a week later she found she's pregnant. He is out of house at this time. I go to visit my sister and the subject comes up about my neice being pregnant. I am happy she has decided to keep it and not take her ex back. My sister makes a comment jokingly "you can have (neice)'s baby" haha. I really don't think she meant anything by it but it just bothered me. Not only am I having a difficult time but my neice is going to have a rougher time. I told my neice there are alot supports for her and that I will be there for her. Ughhh my sister.
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Im so happy that your there for her! Its wonderful when family is loving and caring! Im glad that your niece is happy and well! Good luck to you both!
wow that is insensitive to both of you. I can relate somewhat to that. When i was 20 i was prego with my daughter and my sister who was 35 was having IVF done and had many miscarriages, my mother said to me right in front of her that i should give her my baby because im too young and dont deserve one (mind you i was married for a year already) and for years its all i have been hearing since my sister never had kids (nothing worked for her). My family has constantly said i should never have any more kids and that my poor sister doesnt deserve what fate has given her. It got to the point that me and my sister do not talk, because she has also been badmouthing me and my parenting for years as well as anyone else in the family that is younger than her and has had kids, its sad. i hope you give your niece the emotional support she will need at the momment because having a baby at any age is hard and rewarding. I would also talk to your sister about the comments in private maybe she didnt think before she spoke. I tried talking sense to my family members but it didnt work. hope it does for you!
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