would you?

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would you?
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Mon, 10-08-2012 - 11:12am

a simple question for the wives out there. if you could have completely no strings sex and be absolutely certain you wouldn't get caught, would you cheat?

a couple points, you are also guaranteed that the sex would be mind blowing and the partner would have all of your dream qualities, whatever they may be (handsome/caring/attentive/large penis/amazing oral skills, etc.).

thanks.

 

 

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Registered: 12-17-2013
In reply to: mzeron
Wed, 12-18-2013 - 10:56am

O my, So happy to hear that someone feels the same way I do. I'm with everything you wrote. I feel why get married if your ever going to want to test others. I am also Catholic and got married in a Catholic church and when I said my vowels I didn't only say them to him, I also said them to GOD. I think you can get passed a lot in a marriage but one thing I don't think can be passed on is being with someone else that also means talking, touching, flirting, writing, and anything else that's against your marriage. Sure I'm no saint and have lied , not always said my feeling and didn't always put him first due to hanging out with girlfriends and not doing wifely duties,  but this I would NEVER do and have NEVER done. I truly feel that once a partner in a marriage goes against being faithful to one another by either person there is NO marriage left to even try to have a marriage anymore. God will never allow your marriage to be happy or it will never work as marriage once this has been done. I would NEVER do it not even and that also means in mine, body, soul. I have never even though about doing it and don't EVER plan on thinking about it no matter how rockey our marriage may get. In the end GOD will protect and help your rockey marriage, but if u have been unfaithfull in your marriage there will be NO marriage for GOD to protect.

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Registered: 11-01-2012
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 1:21pm

I am not a wife now and would never be again but know that I would still do it, and have done it, under those conditions that you described. 

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Registered: 08-08-2012
Fri, 11-09-2012 - 8:27pm

Simple answer...no

My hubby gives me mind blowing sex every time. He is pretty dreamy even at his age of almost 50. I don't think I would want a large penis, but he does have amazing oral skills and is very attentive.

Final answer: Nope!

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Registered: 06-14-2002
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:14pm

As a man, I would hope that I wouldn't, but the circumstances might alter that plan.  Afterwards I would definitely feel massive guilt and whether or not that would reveal my deed, I would still know what I did.

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Registered: 01-30-2012
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 9:06am

Hmmm. I have never been married but was engaged to a man and raised our child with him for five years so, in my eyes, we were pretty much hitched. Prior to that relationship, I had cheated on former SO's but only when the relationship was souring and they didn't want to let go. That's no excuse for my dishonest behavior, but it is a partial reason. However, once I agreed to marry my fiance, I committed myself to him in every way with the intention of spending the rest of my life with him and once our child arrived, I felt doubly so. Those were the five crappiest years of my life, relationship-wise. I was miserable with him. But I never cheated because he wasn't just some BF easily disposed of or replaced. So, no, I don't think I would betray the man I choose to grow old with. Why bother with marriage at all if you're so easily tempted? Then again, ask me after 20 years of marriage and I might be singing a different song, lol.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Sun, 11-04-2012 - 6:56pm

I dont think I could it sounds good and all but as much as I love my fiance I would feel extremely guilty afterwards keeping somthing like that....I guess it really depends on the person ask me 5 years ago in the begining of the relationship then sure most deff but not now.

Alexis

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Registered: 11-04-2012
In reply to: Marriar
Sun, 11-04-2012 - 3:50am

No never in 30 years so why now, I guess I'm a old fashion marriage vow middle age  women. No man can make me disrespect my commitment to God, because Adultery is divorce. It is not OK for me I'm not saying for anyone else. Even my husband I don't know what he do 24 hour per day  I can only have faith he would feel like me fantasy or reality in cheating.

Marriar USA

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Registered: 08-18-2012
Fri, 11-02-2012 - 12:38pm

My reply:

Q: What do you call an intelligent, good looking, sensitive man?

A: A rumor


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Registered: 10-10-2012
Thu, 11-01-2012 - 8:31pm

I believe 95% of the world would under those circumstances. If my wife was going to and it was a one time fantasy type thing, I would love to watch to see if i could pick up any pointers. I know im good , but i always want to get better. Only fantasy though, otherwise i have to hurt someone. lol but totaly serious

 

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Registered: 10-10-2012
Thu, 11-01-2012 - 8:30pm

I believe 95% of the world would under those circumstances. If my wife was going to and it was a one time fantasy type thing, I would love to watch to see if i could pick up any pointers. I know im good , but i always want to get better. Only fantasy though, otherwise i have to hurt someone. lol but totaly serious

 

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