it is so true ow often this happens!! Mine never gave me flowers but hadother ways of getting to me sigh
I hate flowers, sorry bit harsh......
Still dealing with the LOSS of my friend...it has been very difficult.
My ex bought me or at least tried to.
If it or he seems too good to be true trust your gut instincts.
Usually there is a pattern.
Subtle at first but they you can begin to see it.
Wished I had seen it sooner or hadn't got sucked back in.
My heart goes out to you Queen.
Was talking about my ex husband but the ex boyfriend is trying and yesterday he really set me off. I told him I had plans with my two of my children and when I didn't answer his text messages before those plans he accused me of having plans with someone else and not really my children. Yes I had gone out a few times with someone and went by to see this guy Thursday to get my oil changed as he is a mechanic and I really needed my oil changed and he works at a shop that does this but the behavior yesterday was uncalled for. When I didn't respond to the text messages he of course called. I told him I wouldn't live like that again and when I explained what I meant by that he told me if I ever compared him to my ex husband again he would tell me to go f off so I said OK good bye and hung up on him. AHHHH!! He of course said sorry later but I can't shake it and really don't think I should. He has been saying all the right things lately and takes all the blame for everything and we talk non stop but I just don't know.
A~, I know you're not asking advice, but you also know I'm going to put my two cents worth in. Sounds to me like it's time to tell this guy to f~ off anyway, and then initiate NO CONTACT. It appears to me, from what you have posted here, that he's becoming more and more disrespectful of your boundaries, and more controlling. I also hear some attempts to isolate you. A~, your ex put you through the wringer enough to last you three lifetimes. Please, do NOT let this guy keep turning you upside down like this. I know it's lonely, I know you hate being alone, I understand. But this guy is NOT worth all the newfound things you have worked so hard to achieve. Please reconsider talking to a counselor. I really do think it's time. You don't need or deserve more years of emotional limbo.
Aw, Sweet A~, hugest hugs. This has got to be a nightmare for you, with all sorts of things getting triggered. I am 100% in support of your girlfriend time and hope you go with a light heart and totally focused on just having a good time and not thinking about all of this one little bit. Only other thing I have to add is - PLEASE, do NOT ignore all those red flags that are waving in the breeze. Think back to the other times you saw those flags waving and where that led. You know this is not going to get any better. Please don't set yourself up for more heartache and possibly worse. I know how lonely you are, I've been going through it for years. But I would rather be a tad lonely for male companionship than to ever take the chance on getting back into an abusive relationship. In fact, 2-3 years ago, I was engaged to be married, but as soon as that engagement ring went on my finger, he changed and it was NOT for the better. Four weeks later I returned his ring and broke it off completely. It was then that he showed his true colors and I realized what a bullet I had dodged and I thank God for that insight every single day. Two of the biggest enemies of survivors are minimization and rationalization. We're such experts at doing so because of our past, but it also can lead us down the wrong path for the future. Hugs, honey, I'm just so concerned for you.